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*obThePizzaBoy
writes:20 year old male here who hasn't had any luck with women ever. In high school, I was seen as a monster by the majority of my female peers (likely due to not being an athlete or anything of real worth beyond one of the quasi-artsy kids) and in college so far I've kind of kept my distance from getting too close with anyone due to wanting to avoid redoing past mistakes from high school. More recently, I started a job as a lifeguard at a town pool and well, wouldn't you know it? There was a girl that popped up a few weeks into the season, age 17 (just graduated high school, about to turn 18) and wouldn't you know it? I've taken a bit of a liking to her. I don't know, she seems to be just as quiet and keeping to herself the same exact way I am but we do get some banter in, usually just witty stuff about how crowded the pool seems to get, picking on the bad movies we have in the video cabinet in the break room, stuff like that. But even then I do have a tendency to end up acting a bit goofy around her completely by chance, just making dumb minor mistakes. I don't know if she knows I like her (I don't think so), I'm really at a crossroads, should I let this crush just die the way I've let other crushes do or could this be a girl I finally have a chance with? It's just so hard to tell, ladies are so tricky!
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reader, Rowdy +, writes (27 June 2012):
If you're a lifeguard, then you must be at least in shape. So you've got that going for you. But really, I think the trick here, is, well, be yourself. I know that's cheesy and you've heard so many times before on TV, but I know this is what would help you.
Your goofy, so what? Own it man! And don't worry about these "dumb minor mistakes." Girls don't want somebody who's perfect, they want a human being. Be goofy, talk to the girl, and when you mess up, laugh about it. That'll show her you're a guy who just likes to laugh and enjoy life. And when a girl finds someone like that, well, they stick to 'em. It makes you happy being around someone else who's smiling and laughing; more contagious than a yawn.
So, long story short, just be yourself, you've got this!
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (26 June 2012):
Indeed ladies are tricky...thats why unless you are adept at picking up signals and have all the know-how to get girls to ask you out, it is best to just ask them out and get it over with. It's either you win or lose but its good to be confident (not to be confused with cocky). Good luck and just go for it.
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