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anonymous
writes:I am 16 and still I have never had a girlfriend because I think it`s not love or anything it`s just interest but nowadays i see a lot of boys having a relationship with girls so all these questions just pop up like Dude you're 16 and still you don`t have a girlfriend and never had a girlfriend therefore this disappoints me a lot.I know i said it isn't love it`s just interest not close to love at all but I think it`s going to be fun if I could take a girl to the cinemas or go to the pyramids and watch the sunsets.So the question is:1)Should I try and go on a date just for once to know what it feels like?2)Am I short for a girl because I am only 5 ft.8 ?If my English is bad i apologize this is my first time so please be easy on me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for replying my question because I was just concerned but now i am fine thanks to your answers really helped me.If one day i find the right girl i might just try and if works out there will be no problem to find another one.Ofc. I am just 16 not 36.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Are you really from Egypt and are you talking about Egyptian girls ?... In this case I am surprised, I know that customs have changed and are always evolving and getting more and more Westernized,( at least they were until the recent elections, now... we'll see ) , but still, for what I am told, no way you'd see around all these young couples casually dating American style and 16 y.o. girls gallivanting by themselves to admire the sunset on the pyramids with their beau .They may seem a lot to you, because we always notice more what reflects the content of our thoughts and preoccupations, but it just can't be such a widespread occurrence.
Anyway- even if you lived in New York or London, 16 is SOOO young- most guys are in your same predicament ! it's really absurd to worry because you haven't had a relationship YET. Yet what ? you are 16, not 36 !
Said that, if you want something, you've got to go after it, so if you'd like go to the cinema with a girl,... well, you'll just have to ask one out :) ( again, make sure you are not going to get her or yourself or both in trouble with your families ).
Nothing ventured, nothing gained :). Ask girls out and please do not get upset if you'd should get some no - it's ok, don't take it personally and don't get scared.
Don't worry about your height either, 5'8 is not tall, but you are surely not a dwarf, you don't have anything to feel self conscious about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): Hi Anonymous,Please don't be pressurised by anything because your friends are "doing it". You're still young and there is lots of time for dating, and relationships.When your friends question you, just say you have high standards, and you want to wait for the real thing. 1) The fact you think it will be fun to take a girl to the cinemas, to see the pyramids or to watch a sunset is a good sign. Start of simply. Look around your school, and the hobbies or things that interest you, and see if there are potential girls who do the same things you do, or that excel at what you do (whether a subject, topic or hobby) Then start off by smiling at that girl, and if her reaction seems interested by smiling back, or you have talked before, or her body language indicates it will be positive if you try and get to know her better, suggest you would like to be friends, and how about you go and see a movie you both are interested in? Perhaps have lunch at school one day, to see if you do get along. A movie can be uncomfortable with a first date, and you sit in silence, so get to know them a bit beforehand. The ideas you had are very good, but that can come once you know a girl a bit better.As you go out for a juice/ice cream/coffee, you chat more, you see movies, then the pyramids and you will see if you feel more, if she does, if it's mutual, etc. If not, you have a new friend, if yes, you take it to the next level. 2) Never worry about your height, it is not a requirement for anything in a relationship. A girl will like you for your character, your personality, who you are inside and outside, before being concerned about height! Look at somebody like Tom Cruise who is shorter, yet sexy as hell to most of us women. So put height out of your thoughts and make up for it with a great personality. There may be guys you know who have great height, but can be complete morons and girls don't appreciate that ;-) get my meaning?Your English was fine, you seem like a great guy with a romantic streak, and don't be in a hurry. One day you will have a girlfriend who will appreciate you just as you are. The time will come, there is no rush. Enjoy life!
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