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writes:I have just come out of a horrible relationship of 10 months. Another ex contacted me to ask if I was ok. He has been really supportive listening and taking me out to cheer me up. We broke up amicably last year because he wasn't over his ex and I bailed out. He apologised for that recently. We nearly got intimate recently but we both said it wasn't right as I was still upset about my break up.He said I need to be in my own and build myself back up. We hug and laugh a lot and are both single. I have never been like this with any ex. Is this asking for trouble if I start getting attached to him now. We both fancy each other but he says I need to learn to be happy in myself. It just feels so good to have him around and it takes my mind off things. Im puzzled as to what is right and wrong now. Im enjoying the moment to be honest.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 February 2014):
 So enjoy the moment but don't get so caught up in it that you blur the line. Keep it platonic and don't hang out at each other's houses.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (18 February 2014):
 Let him help you and stay friends but just don't be intimate. It's way too soon and by getting entrenched with him again won't allow you the time to get over the 10 month thing.
I do know some people absolutely cannot stand to be on their own, not even for a few months, so maybe take a step back and look at what is really going on.
Women are vulnerable immediately after a break up and can leave themselves wide open to being used by guys just looking for a bit of casual sex. If he's REALLY your friend he will respect the boundaries and you can still enjoy your times spent with him without worrying if he's using you or not.
Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2014): i think you should remain friends for the time being, 'cos you need to get over the breakup of the other lad. your ex is being very nice, and you don't want to rush things and lose him again, do you? if when you're over the other ex and you still have feelings for the guy who's keeping you happy, then go back to him, but bear in mind that you might break up again.
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (18 February 2014):
 I don't feel its a problem ex can help you through a rough patch. Its not about claiming and relationships all the time but being there for people you care about and they care for you. I would enjoy it too make the most of it. Support is fine and well even from a ex.
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