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writes:Dear Cupid... I have been going out with a girl for almost 4 years but i have always found her younger sister more attractive, lately i have been having thoughts about letting her know how i feel about her. I know she is attracted to me as we have had moments in the past where things almost happened but we steered clear. What do you think I should do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2015): hi. yep i am with the others here. your relationship is over all bar the shouting....It would be really selfish if you did this. This isn't Dallas, in the real world this doesn't work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2015): No. It is doubtful that she does like you it seems like you are imagining it because u want it South, dump your partner
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (14 August 2015):
 I agree with the others.
Which head are you thinking with here?
What you are suggesting when you say "but i have always found her younger sister more attractive"...... that really you are dating someone(4 years should be considered more a long term relationship)in order to lust after her sister.
Did you ever love/fancy your girlfriend, or was it always about the sister?
You are of an age now, where soon you will want to start thinking about settling down, long term, marriage.
WHAT IF... you do as you want, dump the girlfriend for her little sister, and then it turns to marriage?
How do you honestly think your current GF would feel about that? Having to see you, someone who has been in a long term relationship with her (who she perhaps sees a future with), living the life she could have had with her little sister?
It would appear that you are bored and are upgrading to the newer, younger, prettier model.
Christmas, birthdays, family gatherings...... how mean and cruel do you want to be?
Her family will never forgive you for doing the dirty on her, in such an underhand way.
So, it's up to you. But once you have opened pandoras box, there is no going back.
Personally, I would end your relationship and move on to pastures new, where there is no potential for such emotional harm to be done to innocent people.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 August 2015):
 End it with your GF.
Mt guess is the saying "blood is thicker than water" will most likely prevail and the little sister will not want to date you. If she does, she is not a great sister and it will create a LOT of hurt feelings and drama and THAT will be your doing.
It's kind of creepy to be lusting after a woman's little sister yet continue to date her.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 August 2015):
 Not a good idea. If you are not happy with your girlfriend, and would prefer somebody else then you need to break up with her, its not fair on her to be thinking she is in a loving committed relationship when quite clearly she isn't!
As for the sister, well, how do you think your girlfriend is going to feel if you dump her for her younger sister, do you think the family are going to all jump for joy that you are keeping it all in the family or do you think the parents might have some very grave concerns about you, AND WITH VERY GOOD REASON.
Where is your brain? What on earth is telling you that this would be a good idea, where is that coming from?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (14 August 2015):
I think you should leave your girlfriend anyway. If you have to ask the question, it’s obvious that there isn’t enough in this relationship to keep you fulfilled. If there were, you wouldn’t be thinking of doing the unthinkable by telling her sister and entertaining the possibility of betraying her in the worst way. Only if you leave her are you free to do as you wish, but I wonder whether her sister would be willing to consider being with you anyway, as the ex of her older sister. Probably not. But whatever you do, I think it’s not fair to your girlfriend to keep stringing her along. I think you should question whether it’s fair to her younger sister to put her in such a terrible position by telling her of your feelings. Imagine comforting your sister, knowing the real reason her relationship ended was you?
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2015): Thanks mate
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