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writes:I have been friends with a guy for approximately 15 years, when we first met we did have a little thing going but he broke it off because he didn't want to get between me and the guy I was seeing. It ended we remained quite good friends, through everything we have remained quite close and tell each other pretty much everything and now after all these years I realize he is someone I want to be with but I am unsure of how he feels about me. Should I let him know how I feel or will this ruin our friendship? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rossiey +, writes (7 December 2007):
Rossiey is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your great advice. It seems that you all agree that I should tell him, I just now need to pluck up the courage to do that. I think firstly I will test the waters like Kenny suggests. Thanks you all for you advice I will keep you posted as to what happens.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (7 December 2007):
"Home is where the heart is".It seems like in all the 15yrs you've known him,you've done nothing but fall in love with each other and now those feelings you've suppressed for so long have finally started going over the brim.To be honest with you,your feelings for him will affect any other relationship you might go into and i became your boyfriend,i'd automatically hate your friend seeing how close you two are.There's no illusion that your heart belongs to him,so "go home" and don't break someone's else heart by giving false hope.TELL HIM before it's too late and you start imagining what it could have been.
All the best.
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reader, kenny +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Instead of letting him know how you feel straight away, maybe test the water first. try some flirtatious gestures when you are next talking, like hold eye contact with him for as long as you can. Try touching his hand, and find reasons to touch him, like on the arm, or leg, or simply straightening his tie ( if he has one ). You can get a pretty good idea how someone feels about you by the way they react to flirtatious getures. I guess what im trying to do here is for you you to find out how he feels about you without you actually asking him, and as you say ultimately risking your friendship. If you feel things are being reciprocated then you can progress futher, and feel more confident in eventually asking him his feelings.
I hope it all goes well for, and good luck x
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Tell him dont risk losing something that coud be amazing dont be afriad, if he rejects you tell him how you feel but also make sure if he doesnt feel the same that nothing changes between you.
Take a chance take a risk or regret it for the rest of your life, you tell him everything he tells you everything you may not be in a relationship (yet) but your both open and honest, i would take the risk i wouldnt want to live my life thinking "what if?" do you want to spend your life asking yourself that?
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I believe you should tell him how you feel. This friendship of yours has been close for 15 years you say so im sure you both must communicate and understand eachother well. There was something going on between you both in the past so maybe there is stil something there. You wont know unless you tell him how you feel. Accept and understand whatever he feels he has to say. Dont let this opportunity pass you by. Good luck!
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (6 December 2007):
I believe you should tell him how you feel. This friendship of yours has been close for 15 years you say so im sure you both must communicate and understand eachother well. There was something going on between you both in the past so maybe there is stil something there. You wont know unless you tell him how you feel. Accepot and understand whatever he feels he has to say. Dont let this opportunity pass you by. Good luck!
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