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writes:Okay, me and my boyfriend Jack* have been together for six months, I moved in with him four months ago when he found out my father was abusing me (my father said I could go live with Jack if I never went home again..I was fine with that) Anyway, about a year ago I was diagnosed with Leukemia, now I've been told I have between 6 to 18 months to live, basically...I don't really have that long.Now, Jack knows I'm ill, and he is so caring and everything about it, but he doesnt know how long I have, he doesnt know I'm going to die...I just cant tell him, he often says stuff like "I couldn't live without you" and "Once your well enough, I'll take you all over the world" because I've never been out of Ireland. How can I tell him that I'm going to die? I know it will hurt him...should I let him go? I feel so selfish for hurting him, I feel like I'm forcing him to stay because I'm ill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Please find some way to tell him. Someone I was close to recently died, and she never told anyone she was sick. I never got to talk to her about things or say goodbye, and that will always haunt me. She thought she was doing what was best, but it really wasn't. I feel like I will never have closure. You don't want him to feel that way. If he knows you're not well and he has stayed anyway, said wonderful things, and helped you through it, then you know he's not just staying because you are sick.
I'm so sorry. :(
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 December 2009):
This is a sad situation to be in. But you have no reason to feel guilty or selfish about this. You haven't done anything wrong. He's a great guy, he adores you. I think it would be better to tell him than to not tell him and leave. He's going to be very hurt whatever happens, but I'm sure he would be really heartbroken if you felt you couldn't tell him, or if you left. He would feel as if he wasn't there for you. I think if you're worried about how to tell him, you would be better taking him to the doctor with you and allow the doctor to tell him. If nothing else, please make sure his parents know they can prepare themselves for his hurt. You're going through a lot, and you've been very brave. You just need to be a little braver and tell him. All the best.
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