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writes:Im 45 a housewife just divorced my husband. I've met a man 18 years older than me. We've been seeing each other 4 a year now. We get on well. I've been trying to find job but no luck yet. He's got good income and still working but he never offer help with money. He is not poor but behaves as he was. He spends as little as possible on eveything and on me. We only ate out at a restaurant once on the first day we met. When I suggest to eat out again he would tell me to go by myself. Even I offer to pay he wouldnt go. He seems love money more than anything. Should I leave or stay. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Wow,Wow Wow, Why only male answers to this question? :)
Ok, would not pay attention and answer to theirs answers.
My answer is this: ur 45(dont know if have childs, but is irrelevant in this situation), trying to find a Job. He must be perfectly aware of this fact as well as that u have suffered divorcment before.
So, He is as an adult aware of the situation.
I dont know if You love him or not(Thats the question you need to answer) but as far as He is concerned I think he is or cheapstake or does not have serious intentions toward you. Dont get me wrong, but if He had serious intentions, he would offer any help he might give at the moment.
We Help to people we love and care for, and surely we suffer when seeing them in hardships and troubles,so we Give Ourself as much as possible to help them in any way.
Maybe he is sceptical about You being after his monetary help, But if he Loves you than I do not think it would matter to him, But Moreover How to keep you will be his basic concern.
Thats my opinion, just
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reader, rcn  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 My grandfather was use to paying much less for things, yet spent the last 40 years of his life blind. When we'd visit him, my family would take him to eat. He's always ask how much the meals were. Mom wouldn't tell him, because if he knew what it cost, he'd leave without eating. It may not be a love of money as much as it is not spending the high prices that are offered today.
If I were you, I'd talk to him about your concerns. When you do, listen to his reasons as well. We all do this to some extent. For me, I'll go out to eat, but I will wait for movies to arrive at the cheap movie theater before going to a show. I'd rather spend 1 to 3 dollars than 7 for a show, and I always eat before the movie. The cost of popcorn and things at the theater, too inflated for my taste.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): i may not be the greatest person to answer this but i believe that you need to ask yourself how much you love him- i think it is more how much do you love his money rather than him. If you love him moree then you have your answer, stay with him. Vice versa. I recommend, if you love him, that you should try and talk to him about why he is stingy with his money, say it upsets you and that you don't feel that you are special and say that you feel he loves his money more than you. Depending on his reaction then you should have a better idea of what to do. Remember that men of that age tend to be much more careful with money. Also, he could have money issues you don't know about. Talk to him. It is the best way to go. Hope i have helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): i may not be the greatest person to answer this but i believe that you need to ask yourself how much you love him- i think it is more how much do you love his money rather than him. If you love him moree then you have your answer, stay with him. Vice versa. I recommend, if you love him, that you should try and talk to him about why he is stingy with his money, say it upsets you and that you don't feel that you are special and say that you feel he loves his money more than you. Depending on his reaction then you should have a better idea of what to do. Remember that men of that age tend to be much more careful with money. Also, he could have money issues you don't know about. Talk to him. It is the best way to go. Hope i have helped.
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