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writes: i am 44 years old and i have a partner that is 47 we have been together for 15 months this time , but i have a secret addmirer who is 10 years younger than me that i know would make me happy as when he calls or texts me i feel very happy inside in what he says to me , should i leave my partner for him
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reader, Gotcha +, writes (15 November 2006):
No, you make you happy. the feelings your getting are a feeling of a new high. If your not hapy then there is a reason for that and you need to find out what that is
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (14 November 2006):
 I think Irish is spot on with this one. You don't know this secret admirer, and not to mention only know the good side of this person, get to know him... and if your unhappy with your current relationship leave it but not to jump into another one! You'll only carry over baggage from the other relationship on to your new one. My suggestion is to leave the relationship if you are truly unhappy and feel you cant work it out through therapy or some other means, and give time to this new person, get to know him don't make a serious commitment with a stranger. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): Have you even met this secret admirer? If not, you could be walking into a disasterous nightmare. Please be cautious.
If you have met him and you feel he is the one for you, just remember...A woman should never, ever leave an unhappy situation for another man. You always leave an unhappy situation for yourself and your own life happiness. Develop yourself, your independence and your pride as a woman, first. Don't expect the other man to 'give you a life' and never look at another man as an opportunity to resolve your current unhappiness. So, before you run into the arms of the other man, you need to do the hard work of getting through the emotional pain of leaving. And no matter how unloving you feel towards your current partner, there will be pain and sorrow, on both your parts. If you are miserable, and there is no resolve with your current partner, you try to do the most humane thing by firstly, removing yourself from this current relationship with as much kindness and dignity as possible. Try not to be blinded by the fantasy of happiness with the new man, until you've done the hard, painful work of leaving. Remember, a bunch of calls and texts can be misleading. You need to be around this new man and learn so much more about 'who he is and what makes him tick" before making any type of solid, firm committment. So it you leave, make sure you are not emotionally depending on this new man to give you a way out. That's unfair to him because we share a man's life not have him "be our life". Be very, very careful and think this through. Use you head and not your heart, hun. Look out for yourself.
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