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writes: Im a 18yr olg girl n im goin out with a 26yr old man, weve been 2gether for 4months now n were very happy n very much in love with each otha. Im at uni n he works full time so we only see each other at the weekends, which we are both ok with for the time being. I havent told any of my friends back at home about him or my parents cos i dont think they would approve, the only people that know r the ones im at uni with. Most people i tell r really supportive about it but ocasionally i get the odd person who finks the whole situation is wierd n wrong! I really dnt have a problem with it n i jus think that u cant help who you fall in love with but can u please all give me sum feedback on what you think cos i really need some help. thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 I was in your position when I met my partner. I was 18 and he was 27 but I left my boyfriend at the time for him because I totally fell head over heals for him. I didn't make a mistake and, although my family were a bit wary at the time (he was the first older guy I'd been out with), they realised how nice he was, how well he treated me and how happy we made each other.
You can choose whether or not you tell your family; you're 18, you don't need their say so anymore. But it would be good to be able to confide in them, it's really not that unusual for a girl to be going out with someone so much older! In fact, I'd be more surprised if he was younger, as men are so far behind us maturity-wise!
I don't think it's weird and people who say it is are crazy. Whoever makes you happy, no matter what age, colour, nationality or sex they are, that's who you are supposed to be with.
Let this go and enjoy your time together.
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reader, lovestough +, writes (15 November 2006):
my fiance is 7 years older than me and my entire family and friends are fine with it. i was 20 when we met and he was 27. just explain to your family that this is your boyfriend and he makes you happy and that the age difference is just a number! the only thing i will say is he might be ready to settle down quicker than you will because he,s older and hes been there and done that which is still all ahead of you. advice from personal experience! but if you love this guy then it should not matter what others think.
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reader, marie78 +, writes (14 November 2006):
1st- age doesn't matter, but given that your bf is 26, I'd question his motives. 2nd- After 4 months, the two of you are in lust not love. Love is an enduring feeling. For instance, if he got into a car accident tomorrow and lost his legs, would you stay with him? Truly think about your answer ... and in all honesty, would you stay with him for the remainder of your life and you're only 18? If you can answer 'yes' and truly mean it, then you're in love. But if you're questioning yourself, then it's lust. Also, he's 26 years old, so be careful, because he'll tell you what you want to hear to get you into bed. I'd be very careful... he's definitely more experienced than you. Good Luck!
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