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writes:I am 13 and i was wondering what to do I asked out this girl i realy like i mean i love her but she said no and that day i felt like i wanted to die but we get teased for it and i still love her. How or what should i do or should i leave it alone? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): If she told you, no, she didn't want to date you and you are looking for a way to get her to date you...then this is not really love, hun. It's a big crush. The truest type love is not 'getting what we want, when we want it'. It's knowing how to respect others and not push our feelings onto them. So I will suggest to you, to leave her alone for now. She knows you like her a lot. Leave it at that and understand, that your age, young teens change dating partners on a regular basis. This is all about learning and developing one's relationship skills in preparation for adulthood. So retreat for a bit, don't allow the rejection to get to you and look at other options..like other females you can date. Perhaps in time, after being friends with this particular female, you could try again. But give it time.
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reader, KittenMagic  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Was she with her friends when you asked her? Or were your friends present? Maybe she felt pressured into this answer?
Maybe become close friends with her before approaching again, go out to a water park or the cinema for the day?
Alternatively, speak to her friends to find out why she said that, and if she is interested.
If not, i'm afraid it would be better to leave it alone, to respect her wishes. I know it will hurt, i've been there too, so have most of us, but it will be for the best and hopefully both of you can move on and find someone who likes you back
Hope this has helped
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