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*april09
writes:My fiance and I have been together for 2 years now. In order to understand my question I think it is best if I explain our past in a nutshell. We met in middle school, lost contact, reunited over myspace and began having sex for about 3 months until he dropped me to get back with his ex. Turns out I was pregnant and after that he embarked on a journey to lead us both on having sex and relationship with both of us while I didn't know he was seeing his ex. I cut off contact with him when I was 5 months pregnant and didnt speak to him again till our daughter was born. Two weeks later he told me over text that his ex was pregnant too and that he wanted to be with her and we never spoke again until a year after when his ex broke up with him . He came to me and we started again in a real relationship this time, however he was not over his ex and once again began messing around I ended up finding out. Through his ex I found that he was sending his ex messages saying he was still in love with her and wanted to have sex and his ex then sent me a picture of him cheating with some random girl at a party they were both at. For some unknown reason I let it go and moved past it... Or so i thought. He straightened out hasn't messed up and has been working hard for us. He's been faithful and hasn't spoken to any girls that i know of. We now have a 7 month son and for some reason I have begun to feel like total crap. He has told me in the past that his ex has a huge ass and she really does. The problem is he is an ass guy to the max and I have a nice perky LITTLE ass. I like my ass and i get alot of compliments on it but its not big like i know he likes because he practically bragged to me about how big her ass was. I find myself trying anything to make my butt bigger and without the disposal of a gym and two babies, it obviously is not gonna happen. I've caught him on instagram looking at models with big asses and i just feel like trash because i have a little ass. He swears he likes mine and he could care less about his exs big ass but its not enough for me I end up thinking wed be better of seperated that way i wouldnt feel so low about my body and he could find himself someone worthy of upstanding his exs ass. Im always being compared to her by those who know us given the situation and i know she ends up looking better than me. I just feel like shes so much better and im just second choice to him cause she broke up with him and wouldnt take him back and we had our daughter already so he might as well. This way of thinking is ruining our relationship but I cant help it! I dont know how to deal with the fact that im almost positive he prefers his exs ass even if he swears he doesnt. Would it be better if I just end this or should I find some way to cope with the fact that im never going to look like what he likes? It sounds ridiculous but it really does make me feel depressed and unhappy.
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reader, Dapril09 +, writes (3 April 2015):
Dapril09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you girls. I will definately begin to focus on myself and my children more and whatever I do will be because I want to feel better about myself. If he doesnt see what he has or is unhappy with what I can offer then there is plenty of fish in the sea, right? I just need to love myself & I am on the path to get there. I appreciate your words of encouragement!
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reader, Gladtohelp  +, writes (30 March 2015):
 First of all there's nothing ridiculous in feeling this way! It's clear you have a self esteem issue. What's ridiculous is that you don't know your worth!!! Know your worth. If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate you and like you for you then honestly there's no point sticking around. Everyone needs someone who they love inside and out! You need to focus what's really important, you and your child! If you feel insecure about yourself work on ways on building yourself back up instead of seeking it through your boyfriend who clearly doesn't see your worth enough to be happy with what he's got. If you want an ass, do those squats girl! Lool. But don't do it because of your boyfriend, do it for yourself. Bums are just materialistic things at the end of the day it's the character that counts. It your man doesn't accept you for you, in someone else will but focus on yourself and your child.
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