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writes:My ex girlfriend of almost five years and I just recently broke up. We had a rocky relationship, that was mostly due to my taking her for granted. I always had a problem telling her that "I love you", i don't know why. I truly do love her, and always have. what I want to know is, should I leave her alone now that she is free of my ignorance, or should I try harder to improve myself for her. we are currently friends, and have been civil to each other. one thing to consider is the fact that we are still living together pending circumstances. I really don't want to lose this girl. maybe its the best thing for her.
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reader, pixel +, writes (28 July 2008):
pixel is verified as being by the original poster of the question My ex and I have gone back to being just friends... i know that it is going to be better this way. We do not fight anymore. I am also going to focus more on myself, rather than a failed relationship. I would like to thank everybody out there who helped me through this tough time.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 It's not a matter of being beyond repair. Maybe you are, and maybe you arent. Being honest is a good first step. Asking her for her forgiveness is a good second start. Tell her, not that your asking for a second chance, but because of your selfishness need her to know that you know how you acted, and would appreciate forgiveness from her.
Even if you are beyond repair, and you make the significant changes in how you treated her. That doesn't mean that at some pont you can't start a new. Trash the old and start again with the new you.
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reader, pixel +, writes (22 July 2008):
pixel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the advice.... I will try to be more honest with myself, as well as her. Sometimes it feels hopeless, but I'm willing to be more optimistic about things. I will try telling her what I've wrote here. I don't think it will help, i think we are beyond repair, but that's my problem right there. I always look at the worst possible scenario. Again, thank you for providing me with some feedback on this, i really need it right now.
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 July 2008):
You recognize your ignorance. Now that you're being honest with yourself, try being honest with her.
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