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writes:Hello everyone : ),I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years but I've known him forever. I'm so madly in love with him. I wanna have his baby, so bad I know we'd both be great parents. I know that I'm not ready financially though. I just can't wait to have our baby. I'm really excited about the idea of his child being inside me. I want to spend the rest of my life with this man and I really mean it. I've never been so happy in my life. I'm not saying I'm going to have babies anytime soon, I want to finish college first, but I really want to let him know how strongly I feel for him. We talk about kids all the time but I want to let him know that if he decided that he wanted me to marry him today and start a family I definetely wouldn't even hesitate. Should I keep it to myself? I know he wouldn't react in a negative way, cz I know he loves me and means what he says, but aren't some things better left alone until the time is right? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): Thanks everyone you all really helped, I'm gonna keep it to myself, for another few years, or eventually when we get married. I doubt I'd scare him away because we have talked about the topic of kids numerous times under his own free will, but I'm not sure if he was just talking just to talk or really means it like I do. But I will definetely wait, especially cz of the economy, God knows I can't afford a kid right now, I can barely keep up with my payments for college and my other million bills.(no credit debt by the way ..yay!)
Thanks a mill again everyone!
Mrs.C2b
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reader, on step at a time  +, writes (4 December 2008):
Hey Goodmorning how are you doing i must say i know waht you are going through dear imagine i am in the same situation for the oast four years my advise is that you talk about this issue with your boyfriend you will be surprised maybe he is also thinking of the same thing but he does not know how to break it to you i have been in a relationship for the past 4yrs with my guy and he is now insisting that we have one but my problem is he is always to busy and away
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Yes, some things are better left alone until the time is right.
I'm married now, and I noticed a change in my studious ways after I got married. Lucky for me, it is my last year and a half anyways.
Wait to tell him.
Best wishes,
Amanda
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reader, nokutenda +, writes (4 December 2008):
l think you should say it in passing,don't make it the topic.
while talking u can just say something like... 'hey u know l love you l would like to marry you and have your baby one day' and leave it like that.don't put pressure and don't expect a answer.
he may be thinking in the same lines
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I think you should wait to tell him your feelings until he pops the big question, its ok you for you to tell him you love him every once in a while. Don't get to excited, you can't read his thoughts. I'm sure he loves you, Just wait to tell him your deep feelings in your vows to him.
Hope This helps!!!!!!
Bye
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Id say keep it to yourself until near the end of collage, because he could take it as your going obsessive on him and you may just push him away when you meant to pull him closer by confessing how you feel like that. When you do decide to confess, don't do it erratically, do it calmly and tell him how you feel.
Also you really need to evaluate where a relationship is going before deciding on something this important, why do you see you self with him forever, what are his flaws, are they really bad ones that will effect you and the child in the future etc. You should get the idea.
You really need to think this threw with the economy the way it is i would personally not try having a kid until it starts to improve for good, because a kid is a huge financial decision as well as a emotional one. A child may sound like gods gift to women right now but by the end of the pregnancy you will be probably hating a lot of the effects of it, morning sickness and all. And once the baby is born good bye good nights of sleep, as well as taking away a lot of your freedom to do what you want.
I hope you make the right decision for you, good luck!
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