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writes:OK People this is deep and I need help. This will be made into a Novel one day, so don't be surprised. I am 37 years old, I have had more than my share of realtionships, both good and bad. But this one has me going in a whole different state I have never been in. Please do not judge me in a bad way, you don't know me, my heart, or the life I have led, but please open your heart and LISTEN to my story. I met a girl 3 years ago when she was 17. I am a Chef and I work alot of hours and I don't go out much. It was story book magic when we met, love at first sight, and I feel hard for everything she was, her attitude, her beauty, her demeanor, and the person she was to me. She had a boyfriend away in the Army, I also am ex-army and know that young relationships don't tend to last in that standard. But I knew this guy was cheating on her, and I knew I wanted to be the one in her life to provide for her and make her happy. We lasted about 3 months and then Mom and Dad found out and everything came crashing down, I was crushed and for the next year and 1/2 I was in deep depression. Back In September of this year we started to talk again and she admitted no one ever treated her the way I did and she had looked for someone to replace the love I gave to her but never found it. We have had many late night discussions about getting back with each other, I currently am in another state working on a new project at another venue. I make good money and am MORE than capable of taking care of her, and she has confessed that she wants to be with me. She was supposed to come but decided to move in with a friend from school, a guy, and he fell for her. He didn't know how to treat her and has become obsessed with her. He thinks that she is her girlfriend but she doesn't feel the same way, she tells me she loves me. He is leaving to go to Culinary school in New York at the end of this month. She has decided to come and be with me after the Holidays. Here is MY problem. When she tells Mom that she is going to come to be with me, Mom is going to flip. She has deemed me the root of all evil for loving her daughter (but her husband is 20 years older than her!). I want to make peace and reassure her (mom) that my intentions are true and that I really love this girl with every bit of my very soul and that I would die before I let any harm come to her. I plan on putting this girl through college so she can achieve her dream of becoming an English Teacher. Please if anyone out there can offer an ounce of sympathy for this strange situation, I would be grateful. I have never loved someone so much younger than me and I am spellbound by this young woman, she is my everything and I need help....
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reader, paigedylan +, writes (4 December 2008):
 hi,
I married a guy who's 23 years my senior, but I was already in my early 30s when we got married, so maybe that's a different situation altogether. We've been married 10 years now and our relationship is still as fresh as the day we started.
I think it's so beautiful to be loved in a way that you describe your love for her. The level of maturity of course is a factor. Sometimes a girl may seem too young, but maybe more emotionally matured than what you can see from the outside. Only you can judge that.
I suggest you take things slowly and just keep assuring her and her family that you love her deeply. In due time I think her parents will see how wonderful your love for her is, and I hope they'll eventually give you their blessings.
Keep us updated! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): true love conquers all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): Hi.. i have no need to give you sympathy.!! You have done nothing wrong.. at all!! If this girl is your soulmate, and you both are deeply truly in love, nothing will touch it.. and i mean NOTHING!! I feel how much you love her, and want to be with her.. and from my experience.. DON'T LET ANYTHING get in your way!! Peoples opinions can vary from time to time, and effect your head, but you love with your heart, and that is what counts.. Please just reassure your girl, that it is destiny to be together regardless of anyone's opinions... i have done and loved regardless of my parents opinions, and i would never change.. you know how you feel, and what your intentions are.. so just go for it!! Love is the one thing that you have to hang on to and live and dream for in this life.. I am so happy for you guys!!
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