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writes:I have tried online dating before and on one occasion thought things were going really well with one guy (we had met and been on a number of dates) so I stopped contact with all the others I was emailing. It didn’t work out with the guy I was seeing and so I lost out on all the other guys I was emailing. This time around I’m thinking differently but I’m already having doubts as to meeting a few guys at the same time.So the current situation is like this:I and guy A exchange a few emails and meet up. We hit if off and arrange a second date.Guy B emails me just before I met guy A and he’s exactly what I’m looking for (on paper of course). Guy B asks to meet up just as I’m about to go on the second date with guy A.At this stage I haven’t even had a second date with guy A and I really want to meet guy B. I know I need to keep my options open but I already feel guilty. I know that guy A could disappear after the 2nd, 4th or 15th date and I don’t want to lose out on guy B just yet. What would you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I'd try not to over think it. You can be sure that if you are talking and wanting to date several guys at once that they themselves are probably dating other women besides you.
Internet dating works for some people and not for others, but it remains a good way to make connections. There is a chance that eventually someone really special will emerge and it may develop into a relationship, but as a word of warning...some people get addicted to multi dating and never really give each individual a chance, so you need to keep things 'light' until your sure you really know the person before you get into anything with them. Another word of warning...the internet offers an endless stream of singles who 'may be the next best thing'. Some people go on and on for years always hoping they will meet someone who offers that little bit more!! If you get really attached to someone you meet, it is possible they will pass you up for the next best thing...it's like a never ending game.
My main rules for internet dating are:
* Never have sex too soon or give anyone any money
* If your multi dating then be honest about it.
* Always be aware that people are not always who they say they are (i.e already married or in a relationship, alcoholic, violent or a bit of a stalker)
* Never tell anyone where you live or work until you really get to know them well.
Have fun!!!
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, busy04  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Well you didn't say that you've made a serious commitment to either one of them. So I think that as you're trying to see which one is worth more of your interest and time, it's okay to have a date with Guy B. A date is a date: you're not signing your life away to him :)I just say be careful in all you do(I'm sure you are), cause online dating is a tricky business, so please stay safe about it:)Hope I helped ya a little!
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