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*s.help with anything13
writes:Ok well im officially dating the boy i had liked for 6 months. Well im extremely happy about that it was official actually last month. But here`s my problem i dont have and classes with him.Since i dont have any classes with him i do have classes with my old crush(see where im getting at)and well that crush last year had basically kinda used me by making out with me and then later on somehow 'FORGOT' to tell me he had a girlfriend i found out because his girlfriend is my friend. well anyway we`re cool now hes like one of many best guy friends.But lately i`ve been wondering if im starting to like my old crush i mean yes he`s extremely hot but him and i are constantly flirting everytime we are together which is also a lot.Wat makes it worse is he`s also a friend of my boyfriend. And i think i might be starting to have feelings for the old crush but i still like my boyfriend a lot and wats even worse is the old crush asked me out but i said u know i have a boyfriend and he still said so i know you do you can go out with him and me but i rather you JUST go out with me so i said i would think about it. Was i wrong to say that please i need help help is wat i need
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reader, Ms.help with anything13 +, writes (9 September 2012):
Ms.help with anything13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks but by the way after we made out and i found out he was dating my friend i told her and then asked him in front of me if it was true and he said yes. So she broke up with him. she knew i hadn't known they were dating so she wasn't mad at me. We`re stiil friends and she has a new bf now. But the thing is my crush just acts nice to my bf when they together sometimes he says oh ur bf`s a doush u should dump his srry ass and hopefully go out with me he told my bf he likes and my bf thinks i dont know but i do. And my bf is good to me but... he has a reputation(that i`ve witnessed for myself) cheating so idk.But yeah so the part where you think i lose a friend is wrong the part where i might be breaking a heart is not exactly true because i didnt say but i didnt say no. oh and my bf doesnt know he asked me out and that i said i`d think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): Of course you were wrong, this is wrong on so many levels.
You have a friend who is going out with your old crush, you also have a boyfriend who is a friend of your old crush, yet you agreed to think about dating your old crush behind your friends and boyfriends back? Exactly how far do you expect that to go before the two other people concerned find out about this?
If you want to be with the old crush, you need to tell your friend and your boyfriend about this and make it official, but be prepared to lose a friend over this, and likewise for the crush and his friend (Not that it sounds like either of you value friendships that much anyway)
If not, then you both just need to resist and keep your hands to yourselves.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Ordinarily I'd say, you're young - go for it. But, you want to date a guy who "conveniently" forgot about the fact he had a girlfriend, and asked you out when you were seeing someone? Doesn't mind if you're dating two people? Girl, who is to say he won't do the exact same thing to you when you're dating him?! I'm sure his girlfriend thought she could trust him - but you learned to know better than that when you were making out with him behind her back, unbeknownst to you!
If your boyfriend treats you well, he likes you and you like him - stick with the guy who is loyal and not the guy who has already proven he doesn't have a problem cheating!! You're way better than that!
Good luck!
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