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reader, Griffo  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Good on ya mate. I hope everything works out.
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reader, Hydroash  +, writes (6 August 2010):
Hydroash is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told my girlfriend she was sad but i told her i'm really sorry and wont do it again and she's forgiven me
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): dude.., your gf will find out...trust me....and if there is some fantasy the cyberchick is providing you wikth that your girl isnt'...ask you girl to do the same, if she doens't then move on. YOur young and you need to sow your wild oats...but they will find out eventually.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 I'm not sure you should tell her if you're going to stop... I mean honesty is usually the best policy, but just so long as she doesn't ask I'm not sure you should go out of your way to tell her. Ignorance is bliss. I mean don't lie if she asks, definitely stop doing it, but I wouldn't go out and tell her...
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reader, Hydroash +, writes (24 June 2010):
Hydroash is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much i'm gonna tell my girlfriend and stop you really helped hope i don't get into shit :)
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (24 June 2010):
 I THINK THIS IS PROBABLY SOMETHING YOU SHOULD ASK YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!! *slaps forehead* *
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 June 2010):
Unless she knows about it and it's OK then it's most definitely cheating. I think you know that and that's why you're asking. How would you feel if she was doing the same with other guys? It's really not fair to her. You need to stop if you want to keep your girlfriend. Why don't you just go to her for sex when you're horny instead of seeking out women on the web?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Someone said something the other day that blew me away.
If you are doing something that you couldnt do in front of your significant other .... then you probably shouldnt be doing it.
If you can do something and feel no guilt about it, then what you are doing is OK.
Which one are you ? Answer that and you have your solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): well it is concidered sort of cheating
but even if you stop never ever think about telling you GF
because telling her well cause nothing but trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): Yep, how would you feel if she were doing this to you with an older
man?!
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 I wouldn't consider it cheating as such, but it's still as Griffo says "adulterous".
Put yourself in the position of your girlfriend and decide how you would feel if she was doing it to you. As you are not meeting and I see not much harm in internet flirtation, I wouldn't say anything to your girlfriend, but should stop your promiscuous charades behind you.
If she is not fulfilling your sexual desires, talk to her about it, perhaps spice it up (;
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 This is cheating. If you tell your girlfriend she will be very hurt and sad. But continuing to do this is not fair on her. Everyone deserves someone who respects them enough to be faithful. If have doubts about this though, ask your girlfriend what she determines is cheating or not. What is important is that you show respect to her boundaries. She is the one who needs your loyalty.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (23 June 2010):
It's cheating ... Cheating = adulterous: not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend"
Cheating does not have to include phisical contact it could be as simple as being decietful or secretive with bad distrustful intentions. For example if your girlfriend was upset that you did that it would be classed cheating. In other words you are being unfaithful to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): I wouldn't mention this to your girlfriend, but it would be a good idea to end this behavior. It sounds innocent enough but its not fair to her. Its find to masturbate to porn or what not but I think her feelings would be hurt if she knew you were involving another person, cyber or not. If your girlfriend isn't ready for sex, maybe talk to her about phone sex or "cybering" if you really don't want to give it up.
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