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writes:Hey,I don't know my biological father... After many years, I have recently been emailing with his sister, and she hasnt mentioned him at all and neither have I. He has never shown any interest at all, and has a new family. I of course, have my own family (including step dad) and personally I have absolutely no interest in knowing him. But right now we're in a court case, because the only thing he gave me was a hundred dollars a month for support and so i had to go to court to get another hundred cause he wants to pay nothing (I'm in university studying, so by law he has to keep paying child support). That family is full of lies and deceit and they all try to cover each other. I know the aunt sounds sincere but I doubt its honest or maybe it is? i have no idea. My mom went through hell because of his mom and he never stood up to her. He is an engineer and has a lot of money. I dont know if im going to receive any inheritance from him, since hes putting everything under his wife's name because they dont want to share anything with me. The aunt though makes him sound like he's good, a great guy, etc. Do you think I should keep emailing her back so that I keep "good relations" so that maybe in the future I'll receive some inheritance and what is just? Please advise! Thanks!!ps. I dont know if the fight is still with my mom, or with me...(they divorced 16 years ago, she was young. They were only married 5 years and seperated on and off because his mom didnt like my mom)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I agree with Flynn.
I would try to get to know him for yourself and who knows you may have a great relationship given the chance, and obviously still loving your step dad just the same. Inheritance could be a wait for years and years a hard task to keep sweet. The best Inheritance you could get is the truth and THAT family happens to be part of you aswell, and may not be as bad as you have been led to think.
I wish you luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): You are ragging on the guy and you've never even looked him in the eyes?You need to get into contact with him, get to know him. You have differing opinions on what happened and who was at fault. Anybody could be lying here to save face.You will need the truth. You need to talk to your father. See why things happened how they did, and why he hasn't wanted to know you.My own father and mother broke up because he had an affair and chose his mistress over the family. And despite him being a douche some of the time, he is still my father and always will be.Forget the Aunt and grandmother and go straight to the source. Don't involve anyone else but your father until you have gotten to know him first. Formed some kind of bond.I'm honestly surprised you never tried to do this before now. I would have thought the first thing you'd want to do as soon as you were legally allowed to would be to have tracked and sought out the man equally as responsible for your creation as your mother.Flynn 24
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Maintain contact only if you enjoy doing so. The chances of you inheriting anything sound vanishingly small.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh by the way, by "my own family," I mean my mom, siblings, and step dad lol
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Check the law. As his child, you may be able to get some without having to be sweet.
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