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writes:Hi. I hope someone can help me out with this. well i like this guys who is over 20yrs older than me. He flirts with me all the time and i am always finding myself visiting him while hes at work. hes always joking about me and him going for coffee or him bringing me home for supper. He always puts a smile on my face and tells me not to worry about the things that are bugging me. i dont know what to do. should i just keep him as a friend or what?
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reader, finchy  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 do what your heart tells you to do!I am 17 and i like a 31 year old and he likes me! i never went for it because of people telling me it was wrong... and i saw him today when i was on the bus and i had not seen him in ages!!!... i made the bus stop and ran over and hugged him sooooo tight!! and i realised then that i dont care what people say anymore... and that yes i am finally admiting that i love him... next time i see him i am going to do something about it!! and so should you!! he agrees age is a number not a factor. Ask him if he is prepared to tell your family about you both?? if he says ok then u know he is genuine... if not... u need to think what u want to dothe supper thing worrys me,,,... so think about that!! but otherwise... go for it!! dont let anyone tell u otherwise... need anymore help just feel free to email me on the site. Take care xx
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reader, saddad +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Listen to the advice from the ladies here. You are far too young for this guy. His suggestions to bring you home for supper are quite creepy actually.
A lot of single guys in their late 30s (and quite a number who are not single!) would do anything to have a chance with a teenage girl. It is highly unlikely (but not totally impossible) that he has any interest in you as a person. You feel that he is concerned about you by giving advice to your problems and cheering you up or whatever, but in reality and in his mind these are likely ways to just be "nice" to you to get you into bed.
Do not get romantically involved with this guy and try to stop visiting him at work. Such "friendships" between a man his age and a teenage girl are creepy in themselves, especially when he seems to have made his intentions clear by asking you out etc (even in a jokey way).
Get friendly with some boys that are not so much older than you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): I THINK YOU HAVE TO TALK WITH HIM AND TELL YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT HIM, YOU WANT MORE THAN A FRIENDSHIP WITH HIM. I THINK IS FAIR TO YOU START A SERIOUS RELASHONSHIP WITH HIM. I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK!!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 i would say keep him as a friend dont take anything further i dont know how old you are but the classification puts at a very young age to date such an old dude. i am not saying dating older people is wrong but at your age i think its better to mix with boys your age this man is grown-up adult and matured for your age, you might find that he is interested in you because of your age i know that happens all the time when older man dates young girls just to use them for their own selfish ego, it excite them when a young girl like you shows interest on them so dont fall into that trap but if he is genuine he will let you play with your age and wait for you until you are 18 atleast. anyway this is just my opinion, in the end its your decision to make. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): You're 16-17 and you say that he's over 20 years older than you which means that he's in his late 30s! You definitely shouldn't start a relationship with him. Just stay friends with him. He might flirt with you but that doesn't nessaccerily mean that he wants a proper relationship with you. Maybe he just wants to be friends with you. Don't think about getting involved romantically with this guy. Stick with guys that are your age, not ones which are over double how old you are.
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