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writes:Should I break up with him? I really love him and he loves me we have been going out for 8 months now. I'm just not into anything sexual or anything like that, I like him more as a companion right now. It is also probably becuase I am a big workaholic. I love to work what can I say, I love to ride at my barn and I currently sing with a children's chours and I'm just really into making money and ejoying life. School let's not mention... Also takes a lot of time but I feel I'm not being fair to him. I'm also afraid I'll lose him by not seeing him as much.Should I just take a break with him and focus on my life? I see him every Sunday though for the most part but we don't really get to hang out one on one, though to me that is completely fine. Please help I'm in a bit of a fickle. Thanks
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reader, sexi  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 Hi,In life is nice to have a companion.Ask him if he is ok with the amount of time that you 2 spend together and if he is then you dont reallt have a problem.However, if he would like to spend more time with you, then there would be lots of comprimising going on.You want to giv him no attention as this will lead him elswhere (something you dont want) I suggest you speak to him and come to a compromise together.Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): If you really love him and he loves you then you shouldn't haven't to break up.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 You're still young and are enjoying life which is what you should be doing just now. You enjoy his company more as a friend than a boyfriend. If he has a problem with this and wants to be with you more or wants to move the relationship to the next stage ie intimacy then he's moving quicker than you are and it would be wise to let him know you're definitely not ready for that kind of a serious relationship. Talk to him and let him know you like him a lot but just want to take things really slowly just now. It may be that he prefers to do that than lose you altogether but I suggest you both talk.
Eve
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reader, penta +, writes (6 September 2007):
 If you're only partly interested in him, why don't you agree to see other people? As long as everyone knows that there are other people involved, there's no problem (the honesty is important). Dating, so that either of you can see whether there's someone else who knocks your socks off, is great at your age. Give it a try.
If you're not interested in that, I would break up with him so that he can find someone who wants the same level of commitment.
Don't worry about not having sex, btw. Your body, your rules. Anyone who won't wait until you're ready is only interested in the sex, not you, and isn't worth having in your life.
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reader, stawberry01 +, writes (6 September 2007):
 hiAt the end of the day it is your life too if you think that you dont want to be in a relationship then dont you dont have to end your friendship and you can still see each other but talk to him see how he feels your bith in it togetherxx
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