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*halombe
writes:i have been going out with a guy for more than eight years now. he said one day when we were together "lets get married" but i was just starting work so i told him we should wait a bit. He also says that he will only marry me if i change my religion to his which i don't really like. should i just swallow my pride give in and change religions? since then he hasn't asked to marry me again and its been three years since then. and i always say i love you at the end of a phone conversation. is he still interested in me and would still wanna marry me? am i just over thinking things? i am scared i will end up alone. please help.
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reader, loonman4  +, writes (24 May 2010):
I agree with the other responders. But how about this perspective? why doesn't he change his religion to yours? You are too young to be worrying about being alone.As one person said, maybe he is no longer interested in marriage, so as hard as it may be,don't communicate with him any longer and move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 No!
you don't change religion as you would change underwear or hair colour.
You don't fiddle with God- if you believe in any God. And if you don't and you are atheist or agnostic, embracing a religion in which you don't believe is disrespectful ,shallow and immoral.
Plus, I don't think it would work in your case. Last time he mentioned marriage was 3 years ago and then the subject never came up anymore- I guess he has changed his mind since then.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 May 2010):
No. If you start to change one thing, you'll end up changing everything and one day you'll look in a mirror and not know who you are. He's not worth changing for. Either he accepts you as you are, or it's time to move on. You mustn't marry out of fear for being alone, because it will go wrong and you'll end up divorced. Either he accepts you as you are, or you end it. Don't sit there changing. It'll never end otherwise.
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