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writes:I am 29 and have never been married. I have been involved in a couple of serious relationships, but have never lived with any of my boyfriends. I don't put up with a lot of games or garbage and some call me too picky.I have a full social life and am close to my family but feel like something is missing. I really want to find someone who digs me and who will take my breath away. My best friend for life. I have a lot of friends who are happily married and are getting married. I also have friends who have been divorced or are in the process of it. I am getting worried that I will never find the love of my life.I am starting to wonder if I should settle. To the other singles out there who haven't had luck finding their soulmate - Should I wait to find my best friend, lover, light of my life (I am not naiive enough to think that even that match would be perfect happily ever after and we will never hit bumps in the road)? Or should I settle with for a guy I get along with, respects me, and who I know is a good guy but I may not be in love with passionately.Thank you for your input!!
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reader, Debking79 +, writes (11 November 2010):
Debking79 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Update:
I dated Mr. Wrong for a year after posting that. I had been dating him July-August 2009 and he broke up with me on Sept 9, 2009. After I posted my question he got back to me and I was such a sucker. The on again, off again bs continued through our entire relationship and I just kept taking him back. We were very passionate about each other but very wrong for each other.
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reader, Debking79 +, writes (13 September 2009):
Debking79 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for taking the time to tell me what you think. It helps me organize my own scattered brain to hear what others have to say :) Keeps me grounded.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 As Bill Pullman said in "Sleepless in Seattle", "I don't want to be someone who anyone settles for. Marriage is hard enough to go into it with such low expectations." I'm sure that you will find the right guy, and when you do, you will know it. And the 'perfect guy' isn't out there, but the right guy is. He's the guy that brings out the best in you, the one who makes you want to be the best person in the world for him. XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I am 28 1/2 and have never been married, either. I know exactly how you feel. But there is no way you should just settle for someone. For me, it is going to be worth it to wait to find Mr. Right and be 100% happy with my decision for the rest of my life, than to marry Mr. Right Now and only be 50% happy for the rest of my life. Why would you want to put yourself through years of always wondering who else would have come along? And none of this takes into consideration how Mr. Settled For is going to feel, especially if he is head over heels for you!Don't give up, we are going to find them! "Don't settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can't live without."
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