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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey i really need some help.Im a 17 year old girl, and i would consider myself quite attractive. I was with my boyfriend for 1year and a half, but things turned rather sour, i stuck it out, until i fell for someone else, he didnt even no i existed but ive fallen hard, so i got the courage to finish my abusive relationship ( He had pushed me around a bit, and put my confidence levels down, and verbaly abused me) so i decided i would make an effort to get to know this new guy, hes good looking and popular, yet so am i. Where both in the main groups of the school. So i added him on facebook, and we are in some of the same lessons, so we shared the odd stare and smile across the room.(even thought i noticed him staring at my friend aswell) I thought id have a good chance in becoming friends with him, he spoke to me first saying thanks for the add, but that was it. Until the next day i asked him a question about one of our lessons, and he said he didnt know and to ask my mate, the one which likes the fake tan and has rather large boobs ( shes pretty orange, and hes E boobs!) and then he said how he wouldnt mind "having a bit of her" Then the conversation ended, it didnt seem like he was that interested in speaking to me, so about two days later, i asked him a question again, and he seemed to be a bit more responsive, he asked questions aswell, but hes still never spoke to me first. I asked for his msn, and he gave it me, but i left it a while before i decided to speak to him. While in this time my other mate had spoke to him on msn, and said they had shared a normal conversation and how he reminds her of someone. (she doesnt know i like him, i havent told anyone, so this was just general girl chat) So when i got in, i decided to speak to him, then i soon noticed about 5 minutes after i spoke to him, he had changed part of his personal message to "do me a favour please?... fuck off. Loll." and i guess i took it to heart, it really upset me and crushed me, we carried on speaking, untill the conversation just fizzled out. Then around thirty minutes after we stopped speaking, he changed his personal message again, to something about "the only reason why people hate you, is because they havent got something you have"So now im feeling pretty crap and crushed. Ive convinced myself that his p.message was aimed at me, even though he didnt say it was and he wasnt nasty towards me. So now im wondering if this new message he has out is because he's rowed with someone, or just generally because he could change it now. Yet i still think it was aimed at me, as hes never made the effort to talk to me.I cant believe how pathetic i sound, and how upset ive got over this. Weve never had a full on conversation in real life, he's butted in my conversation and laughed, and weve smiled at each other, and he's been in a group discussin with me.What do people looking in from an outsiders point of view think? Do you think i have a chance in hell?Thankyou, and i know what you must be thinking, your 17, grow up! Im telling myself it aswell, i just cant help feeling like a silly little girl. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Hey all, im the original poster of the question, i just cant remember my code sorry!
Thankyou for all your advice, most of it being lovely!
From all your point of views, do you think that message in his name was aimed at me? or do you think im being paranoid?
Thankyou xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Dont for a minute think your stupid. Im a bloke, 27, and still have this problem, yes men do have problems falling for people they shouldnt. attraction is a funny thing and you cant always pick who you fall for, but never ever forget what your worth. Compromise in a situation but never compromise yourself. You sound like a sweet person, and you will find Mr right, but not always when you want or on your terms, have a little patience, and you will be treated the way you deserve.
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reader, LoveIsRough  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Dear anon,Don't get too ahead of yourself..attractiveness is not the only thing..you need to not be shallow too!LoveIsRough
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reader, illbjustfine +, writes (10 September 2009):
Hi! Listen 17 or 70 you have feelings and should not let people be mean. When I was in High School, I cannot tell how cruel guys can be at that age. Guys at that age have their testosterone levels quite high (and maybe looking at too many girlie magazines? lol)They want to feel above other people and find the ones that are targets. Your feelings are very important which you must believe. If you like someone who is not treating you nicely then you take a good look in the mirror, love who you are and stand tall. Don't take that from anyone. People can stink. Just believe in the beautiful person that you are and don't ever forget it. Regardless of how other people may treat you.
It is them and their values...not you. They need to learn respect and you make that very clear to anyone who violates that. Those are boundaries. You tell this asshole to f....off. Not that way, but in a classy way with your head held high as always. Please let me know if I can help further. go get em! Remember you are a beautiful person inside and out! Enjoy!
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