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writes:Should i dump my boyfriend ?. We have been on and off for a long time and when we argue, he threatens to finish me, and sometimes actually does. He has also just asked to have two days to think about whether he wants us to be together too. Why would he need to think for that long ?. If he really loved me, wouldn't he make his mind up faster ?. And whenever i tell him about things i don't like, he says i am whining and complaining and having a go at him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): The clue is 'on and off'. The relationship isn't working. Do yourself a favour and end it. Being with someone should be a joy, it should work. The signs are not good so move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 January 2012):
I think you should. This is a short post, OP, but there's a lot in it. You've been on/off for some time (Red flag 1), he often threatens to dump you (Red Flag 2), and sometimes he does actually dump you (Red Flag 3). To top this off, he now wants two more days to think about it (Red flag 4). And finally, when you say something to him he just moans (Red flag 5).
You have 5 very, very good reasons to end it with this guy and move on. What he feels for you is irrelevant anymore, because his behaviour is pretty low. He clearly can't commit to you, and he has a major issue with sorting problems out. You don't need this man in your life. There are better ones out there who won't treat you this way, and will actually respect you.
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reader, xxChristina5xx +, writes (12 January 2012):
 It sounds to me like he is being fussy. and you're right, if this boy really had strong feelings for you theres no way he would want time to think about if he wants the relationship or not. Also if he felt that strongly he wouldn't keep ending it??? And if hes getting annoyed at you for having opinions then I really think theres other fish in the sea.
I know its hard when you have strong feelings for someone but It dosent sound hopefull at the moment. If it was me, id move on and find someone that makes me happy not confused. hope this helped.
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