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30-35,
*Dazzling
writes:One guy claimed to really like me. He'd always comfort me and told me about his bad experiences with girls who cheated on him. He told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex and said he'll wait for me for as long as it takes.After that we talked everyday and started going out for 2.5 months until one day my best friends told me he had asked another girl out the day after we started going out. I confronted him. We argued a lot and he kept denying it, and he threatened to break up with me if I believed my friends. Then the girl told me he didn't ask her out, he told her he liked her. This girl is a bit of a flirt and gossip but still a nice and deep person.. surely if she wanted to break us up then she wouldn't have sworn her friend to secrecy about this?I broke up with him. Next day I'd convinced myself he wasn't lying. He said he needed time and a week later said that he got really hurt by what I said to him and he doesn't get why I "went so over the top, I know you would be upset hearing these rumours, but I would never lie to you, I'd never tell another girl I liked her, and I do love you!!! and i always will.. but I just can't risk hurting you again."We were friends for awhile but in December I decided to block him on Facebook, and try move on. He texted me a couple of weeks after saying "why did you f*****g block me!" and kept asking.Yesterday I texted him asking if he told that girl he liked her while we went out. But still he denied it and said "I never said that to her. You've hated me for so long over rumours, I never liked anybody else while we went out and I did love you. I haven't moved on and you need to know I still f*****g love you".But the thing I find so suspicious is that this girl had told me that when she found out he already had a girlfriend, he made excuses to her like "it's not a proper relationship and we're taking it slow" - I had asked earlier if we could take it slow... Coincidence?My friends have never liked him and said maybe he was trying to use me.. but we never did ANYTHING sexual! And he always tried his best to help me when I always broke down in front of him. But is he a liar? And why is he saying he still loves me?? (it's been 4 months since out break-up). I still love him a lot so is it worth it giving it another try? Help??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Rumours get spread all the time, but if you where serious about this relationship then you would have trusted him until you had proof but you never. To me it sounds like he does really like you, I can't tell you if he lied or not, but I think you should give things another go if it is what you want but you need to be able to trust him first if you can't well then it is never going to work. Never let others come in between a relationship it is between you and him, and a lot of young girls can get jealous and make up lies so just remember that. Never judge someone unless you have proof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): Your friends don't like him so that may be cause for them to say things to get you to break up with him. I can't say whether he did lie to you, I don't know he might have, maybe he didn't. I would think that maybe you have both let what other's have been saying to come between you. If you want to see where this relationship would lead, then give him a second chance. You need to communicate better though, and don't listen to everyone else. In school there are a lot of rumours that aren't true that get spread around, keep that in mind. Good Luck.
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