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writes: Hello everyone! Happy new year! Or atleast I hope everyone has had one, yes?:) hope you don't mind me using faces this timeSo, it's my third day at a new school today annnd the first day I came I developed a new crush, again -_-Haha, like you know when you are in high school and you suddenly notice the really really cute guy in your class and your first thought is WHOA! yep, that's it.So, the issue is(Which isn't really an issue because that's just the way he is) he's very very VERY quiet and terse.And I'm all smiles, cupcakes, and rainbows and very boisterous and tend to find every reason to giggle.I think the first time I tried talking to him was the second day of school. I saw a book that I was very familiar with on his desk and I was like...Oooh, you're reading that, cool,And all that jazz. He didn't really respond, he just smiled at me and nodded. Today, all I said was 'hi' and he was just paused as if he was wondering if I was talking to him and say "hey," in a really low voice XD.I tried talking to his brother too today...and turns out that he's even worse lmaoLike imagine me kneeling beside the desk of my best friend. His brother is sitting across him and I asked what his name was and he did not respond at all...so I'm just kneeling there like........ :c awww poo(I left him alone after that though)Hahahaha. The only time I heard him talk was when he was helping out the boys with their math homework.I was told that my crush is just really shy and doesn't talk too much.So, I suppose I just wanna know, not exactly, how to win my crush's heart..I just want him to be comfortable around me( Cuz I really am the sweetest girl :3 I don't bite XD).How do I do it? o.oOh, and no I don't smother him or anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, no sorry I wasn't trying to say that I was wild,wild, just cheerful
(Perhaps I should choose words more wisely) By boisterous I meant really outgoing o.e not loud
But I understand what you're saying
But nah I really don't smother, I only say hi, nicely and that's it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 You don't smother and you don't bite , but maybe you are bit too full on for a shy guy ?...
All smiles . Boisterous ( loud too ? ) The giggles ( oh no please. Do not giggle; it tends to scare away even the bravest ).
I am not reproaching you, that's your personality, you sound a very effervescent ,bubbly type - which is cool, within limits. A calm, withdrawn type may feel a bit of sensory overload with you.
Stop tryng too hard and acting overexcited ( albeit I realize it is not easy for many girls your age...) Tune it down just a little, approach him in a normal, conversational kind of voice, smiling but not giggling, and engage him in talking by bringing up neutral topics ( like school : " I have heard you are good at maths "... or asking his opinion about some movie you have seen or music you like ). Casual, as if it's no big deal, and as if you want to have a normal chat and not just grab his attention at any cost , which is off putting and often triggers authomatically a defensive reaction. Let him see that you are just a nice friendly person, not a young Tasmanian Devil with out of control hormons :).
Then,... the ball is in his court. But at least he'll know that you are not the usual attention-hungry airhead.
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