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writes:Okay, so this isn't much of a big dilemma. I'll tell you the story from the beginning.I fell in love with this amazing guy, Who I thought was actually a genuine person; He was really sweet, nice, funny and understanding, But It was all too good to be true I suppose.He dumped me a few months back for this older girl, Not much older, Just around 16 I guess, I was really depressed, But it turned out she didn't like him back much and completely broke his heart, which, In my opinion, Served him right! He didn't have any sympathy for how I felt, He was getting loads of attention because HE was sad because of this other girl, Which was when I realised He was self involved and not as nice as I thought he was.There were loads of things he eventually done that helped me realise that. Then, after quite a while of being completely silent with each other, We began to talk and get close again, as we're forced to see each other 3 times a week because we attend the same hobbie, and we were laughing around like we used to, And one day He told me He liked me again and that he was genuinely sorry, And can't stop thinking about what he done. I was on the border line of giving him a second chance, and possibly getting back together again, Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone deserves a second chance, right? Then I didn't get a text from him for ages, when he said he would reply, So I thought he didn't have credit, Then, He uploads pictures online of him kissing another girl who he'll never see again, And he says he's saying he likes HER now!Do I get mad? I can't have a go at him, he'll make me look silly because truthfully, He can't be any of my business anymore? And I'm scared of the outcomes. Or should I try and start the conversation again where we left off? Or, Completely blank him and next time he tries to talk to me? I don't know how to deal with this :/ please help! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): He was never really serious about you to begin with which is why he broke up with you and started dating this girl that was older than him. Don't allow him to use you...if left, so he should stay gone. Not to mention he left you for someone else..that is a big no-no in my book. If a guy leaves me for someone else, I don't care how sorry they are afterwards, I will NEVER take them back. I did that once before and got screwed....never take them back. EVER.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 August 2010):
This is why I am very wary about second chances. If he couldn't get it right first time around, why would he get it right second time around? Too many people accept rubbish treatment. This guy isn't worth your time. He dumped you once, then came back to you because he was dumped, then didn't bother with you and now fancies another girl. Do not bother with him again. And please learn from this. When a guy fails you badly like he did the first time around, you can be sure he will fail again the second time around. Let him go, move on with your own life.
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reader, Blod +, writes (3 August 2010):
 By the sounds of it, he has no idea what he wants. I don't think you should risk being in a relationship with him again because he'll probably end up liking someone else again.
I think it'd be best for you to steer clear of him. Don't ignore him. Since you've been close in the past I think you should at least be polite to him despite how he's made you feel. If you want to be friends with him, that's fine but taking it further sounds dodgy. There's only so many chances you can give him and he's not showing any signs of changing! Hope I helped. Good luck.
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