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writes:Okay so through some careful questioning I have learned that my girlfriend is on her period as of now. The thing is while on her period I've Noticed that she becomes very erm....independent. She doesn't want anything to do with me or others. I asked her of she was okay, she replied with no and she would like to be alone right now. I respect her wishes and have left her alone but it pains me to know she is not feeling okay and I'm doing nothing to help her. I need some insight from a female perspective. Should I just back off and let her deal with it or should I try to help? Have any of you ever experienced these feelings while on your period. ( I know it might be a slightly personal question, but I just need a little insight as I'm a male and have NOOO idea what shes dealing with). Thank you
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Very thoughtful of you to try, but your girlfriend has made it clear that she just wants to be left alone during that time.
It's not an illness that needs special sympathy and attention really. It's just some discomfort most of us would rather deal with on our own until it passes (and it will before long). We don't want to snap at anyone who doesn't deserve it so it's best to just leave us be.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 September 2012):
 there is nothing you can do...
you are sweet....
but she told you she wants to be alone... trust me this is not about YOU...
she feels crummy
she's cranky
she's tired
she's achy and no matter what she does she feels physically "dirty" (as in messy)
when I was 16 I wanted no one near me... I wanted my bed and my heating pad.... that's it...
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reader, fishdish +, writes (3 September 2012):
 The severity of periods depends on the girl, as well as the period--sometimes mine are painful, like someone's stepping on my lower stomach, others are like I don't have one at all, others give me chills like i have a fever. The pain though can be very uncomfortable and make some girls crabby. Although you've probably heard of PMSing, premenstrual syndrome, I think some ladies' discomfort during this time also makes them cranky. Also factor in that most girls don't really feel presentable or pretty and it's common just to not want to do much, and want to do similar things that they'd want to do on a rainy day like curl up and watch a movie in bed. Obviously her advice is best because she knows what's best for her: leave her alone. But if you want to be really sweet, make her some soup and leave her to do what she'd like by herself for the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): chocolate !! give her chocolate and a movie that she loves make her comfy treat her like royalty that does me !!
hope i helpped
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): If she says she wants you to back off, then back off. This has nothing to do with pms or not, but in general if someone wants to you to leave them alone for whatever reason, you're just going to annoy them and get on their nerves even more if you don't. and that does not help anyone.
don't worry about her, she'll be OK. And she needs to learn how to handle her pms and not let it rule her life because it's going to be come back every month for the next several decades.
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