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writes:So a while back I met a woman through my sister-in-law. We've been talking on the phone a lot, and met up for lunch a couple times since we work near each other. It's obvious there's a chemistry between us. I'd like to ask her out. She has a seven-year-old son. I don't know if I should plan something her son can join in on (as I want to make it clear that I want both she and her son to be a part of my life), or if since this is the first date I should just keep it between us. Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (12 December 2018):
 You still barely know each other. Children need stability. Until 6+ months of exclusivity, they shouldn’t really have met you, unless as a group you were both at BY CHANCE. First several dates should be the two of you only.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (12 December 2018):
 No, absolutely do NOT involve the child at this stage. This is a date, not a family outing. Plenty of time for the latter IF the relationship works out. By all means, ask questions about her son while you are on your date(s) but do NOT involve him in your relationship yet.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 December 2018):
 No, don't involve the kid yet.
You have NO idea if you two are as well suited as you hope/want. And really the LAST thing the kid needs to to see guys come through a "revolving door" of suitors.
You getting to know him should WAIT until you two have decided that you are a. Exclusive b see a future and 3. are more certain that you WANT to make this a long term relationship. Wait a good 9-12 months.
You are rushing this. Don't.
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