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36-40,
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writes:I realize my question is towards faith and love but I wanted to come here since I got fantastic advice during my abusive relationships. I have been in what I would say emotionally neglectful combative home - my youth was always comparative to what she and he is doing is what you should be doing and my parents were very verbally/emotionally abusive. This led me to date men like them and long story short a downward spiral of abusing anxiety pills and partying and just escaping my sadness.It wasn’t until a year ago when my family memwmber that got sick that I have turned to prayer - I stepped up when my greedy family turned a blind eye to help her in need and I believe through prayer and the lord that I am finally able to see how bad my family and my past relationships were. I feel as if I woke up from a coma and I can finally see ..I realize this isn’t a love related post but has anyone felt this way ? I am leaning towards reading the Bible every day and although I dotn agree with some things ( I accept all people) I am afraid of what is happeningI never grew up in a religious home and I have always been told to get an education - get pregnat and be skinny and that is my only jobI would like to start dating but sometimes I am afraid to express faith - I guess it is important for me for someone to be or have a spiritual connection Can anyone agree or am I going crazyI appreciate any feedback and thank anyone that takes their time to respond to this turning point in faith and mental health as well as prayer Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2018): If you are a member of a church, I would suggest you talk to the minister or pastor about your hopes and fears. If you are not a member of a church, I would suggest that you join one that you are comfortable with. Then not only could you talk to the pastor, you would also become part of the church family who have values similar to yours, and you would gain support from that. If the idea of a church does not appeal to you, then consider joining a women’s support group in your community that does appeal to you. You might get a lot out of it. I think in broad terms that you are seeking consistency/balance/congruence in your life (getting your total act together) and dating is one aspect of that. Your faith has helped you along that path. Seek ways to build on that, seek advice on ways to continue learning and growing in all aspects of your life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 December 2018):
 We all seek out things that help us cope with life, helps us through life. For some (like you) it turns out to be faith and religion.
Nothing wrong with that. Especially if you have found some semblance of peace in your life.
Perhaps your "best bet" is to find someone through your church or organization. There are Christian based (and other faiths too) dating sites, so that might also be an option.
And when you DO meet someone TAKE your time to get to know that person and see if you are compatible.
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