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writes:I broke up with her to do the right thing, but it hurts more than I thought.After a year and a half, I decided to break it off with my girlfriend because I tend to get bored in relationships. She was different, though. I think I actually found someone I could have potentially spent the rest of my life with, but I simply wasn't attracted to her anymore. I've already cheated on her once in the past, but I felt that it could happen again so I decided not to put her through that again and let her hopefully find someone better for her. It also made it really hard because her family loved me, we bought each other presents for the holidays etc. Now I feel like I betrayed her and her family......But I did the right thing, right? I am aware I have my own problems, but should I have tried to work it out with her, or was I right to assume I know myself and prevent something I knew was most likely to happen anyways (not become attracted to her again or cheat)?Thank you.
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reader, BunnyAce +, writes (16 November 2010):
 I've been with my boyfriend for the same amount of time. Does she know that you cheated on her before? If i knew my boyfriend had done that to me i would have broken up with him. It would have killed me to do so, but when you think about it, do you deserve someone if you cheat on them? We could always blame it on drinking heavily, but someone in love would not put themselves in that situation in the first place.
Some girls, however, can bounce back, and be able to take it if their boyfriend slips up.
So ask yourself, "what do i want". You need to know what you want. I know that i have done the dating seen, i have met random people and had relations with them. I am tired of that, i want someone that is going to be there always, i want my boyfriend to be my best friend...and that is how it is.
Know what you want and do what is best for you. But if cheating and sleeping with other girls is what you want then you were right to not string her along. Let her find her best friend/boyfriend that won't cheat on her, someone who she deserves. But remember, we all are going to lose our good looks one day, it's best to find a partner that we can connect with on a mental level too.
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