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30-35,
*inna
writes:my finace of 3 years cheated on me 2 months ago.I found out by looking at his emails.when i confronted him about it he denied everything!I cried for 4 days straight and he never said a word to me,until one day he decided to tell me everything that happened between the two of them.I was two months pregnant at the time and booked for an abortion (which i regret)I feel so dirty when we get intimate,i even cry while its happening...I cant even look at him anymore but i love him to death and dont think i can move on without him.Should i leave him?I already have 2 kids with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): wow thanks alot that helps quite a bit coming from a males prospective
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): If you can't live without him, you must find a way to live with him. YES? or NO?If he is sorry , forgive him. He is with you and not her. That says a lot..honest.To forgive means to untie.. untie self from the pain and live in the present. Focus on the now. ~/~
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): He doesn't want to get help to fix your relationship, to make you feel better. Do you really want to stay with him?
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reader, minna +, writes (15 November 2010):
minna is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni once asked if we could go to pre marriage counseling but he said he doesnt need anyone telling him how bad our relashionship is.i can never forgive him as i already told him that and as for trusting him again?im not sure...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): Your big question here is whether you can trust him after this. You have to decide whether you think you can live with trusting him despite his past.
Since you are getting married, you might benefit from a bit of pre-marriage counseling, which you can get from the clergyman who will marry you. It is usually free-of-charge. It might help you move on, especially since you seem very affected by his cheating.
You clearly haven't forgiven him for his cheating, which is demonstrated by how upset you are. Can you forgive him? Can you trust him again?
These are totally up to you.
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reader, milk and cookies  +, writes (15 November 2010):
MINNA
PLEASE GET YOUSELF ON BIRTH control/ You should never have sex with any one who makes you cry unless its with happiness. Men cheat sometimes it, it doesn't mean he does not love you. But give him a ultimanim he needs to marry you are move on. Try and get cild support.
get a job and work on you confidence
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