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writes:im thinking about having sex with this guy who is older than me. he is like 26 and im almost 16. we have been planning on getting together soon. should i really go for it or jus keep our relationship at oral? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Bill Clinton has a lot to answer for.
Oral sex IS sex, and I like how people now call it "oral" instead of "oral sex" to disguise the fact that it's really sex. Watch the movie "Clerks" if you want a guy's perspective on this.
What's more, oral sex is just as illegal as any other type of sex when it's done with a minor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): he is not a pedophile dear. and you are almost legal so its no big deal. i say wait until you are 16,and then go for it.
age is only a number,yet so many jump to stupid conclusions...
and you arent in danger. you cant choose who you love.
fact:how many people actually look at age in a loving relationship before trust etc? if so it is in fact all of you,with an issue. and my man was 48 at 15. im still with him today. chew on that.
anyway as i said dear wait until legal,then start,so he cant be arrested.but its your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Have you ever given oral before?! and btw, in a good relationship, you don't go from zero miles per hour to like 80 in no time at all! You spend lots of time just kissing or hanging out in resteraunts and cafes before the sexual stuff begins
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reader, Sam09  +, writes (31 August 2009):
He has a huge problem if he can't get a chick his age.....very sad case so run for your life he is trying to take advantage of you as well as your innocence. He does not love you so don't confuse it.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): No your only a minor and he's an adult, it IS ILLEGAL!!! Although you think you know what your doing and can handle it, what he has actually done is committed a sex offense (statutory rape) on a minor (under most laws you are not even old enough to concent to sex anyway). He could be sent to prison and put on the sex offenders register (or if your not in the UK something of the equivalent). I would strongly advise you NOT to take things any further with this sexual predator!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You're 15, he's 26. And you want to suck his d**k. Why? Are you white trash? Grow up first. When you've matured ask what you want most from life and then make your decisions based on your answer to that profound question.
You really don't know what your asking with your question.
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Oral sex is sex. No you should not "go for it". I agree with everyone else... this is absolutely not a healthy okay relationship.He's a pedophile, he's knows how to play girls, and you likely are not the only one... or when you grow up some-you'll be too old and he will find another child to deceive.GET Help NOW! (If we are wrong, then nothing should happen if you tell; but if we are right, then it might save your life.)
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reader, busy04 +, writes (31 August 2009):
 You are seriously asking for trouble!!!!!!!!!!
Do you not know that he could get arrested for being with you whether it's oral sex or not?
Have you ever thought that he himself is taking advantage of you because of your age?
No matter how old you think you are, how mature you THINK you may be, you are still a CHILD and he is an ADULT. And it is very much illegal & dangerous for you to be with him.
I advise you to leave this young man alone & be with someone your own age, better yet focus on your education & what you want to become in life rather than asking about sexual relations with someone who can be your older brother.
We (majority of us) don't encourage underage sex or pedophile relationships on this website, so don't think that anyone on here would actually encourage you to do ANYTHING with this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): What you need to do is report this 26 year old to the police. He is a pedophile. He is an adult, you are a child of 16. I know you may look 20, but you are still just a kid whether you want to accept it or not.
What he and you are doing is illegal and he could be put in jail for a number of years and be put on a National Sex Offenders List and remain on it for life.
How did you meet someone so much older than you are? On line? You need to be careful little girl, he is a predator. There is something seriously wrong with a man who would prefer a child over an adult relationship with one of his peers. He has serious social issues and personal and psychological issues to be attracted to you and having sex with you. Yes oral sex is actual sex.
He could even be dangerous and you could end up dead. Seriously, tell your Mom, tell your Dad, tell your school counselor, tell the police, tell someone what is going on here and get away from him as fast as you can.
He isn't even close to being normal and you don't have the life experience to know the difference. Someone that much older than you can "groom" you by earning your trust a little at a time, but he is nothing but a predator and a con.
I am very concerned for you, I really am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Don't you think that he's a bit old for you dear? Usually guy's that old with girl's your age desire certain things... I really think you should be careful, if anything if you have sex he can go to jail for statutory rape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): well how long have you known him for? And has he pushed you into having sex with him?
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