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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met a girl on Christian dating service a month ago and we have been getting along really well until this past week. She has had her moments of being distant at times, but this past week she has really gotten very distant. Last weekend she and I had the best weekend ever and doing just simple things. She was very loving and thoughtful. But, about Wednesday, she became very distant with short text messages and waiting for long periods of time to respond. She has not once said she missed me or anything like that. We went out Friday night and she was distant around her friends, but when we got to her place she cuddled and was tender again and then when I got ready to leave she hardly kissed me and hasn't spoken to me much since then. (It isn't a matter of I didn't spend the night with her...she does not believe in that) Today, she has been sending text messages, but they are short and brief and somewhat argumentative. I have not rush to answer them. On her fb page she has put a quote that says...Guard your heart -- for it is the wellspring of life. Words to live by. I have this taped on my mirror. Don't give your heart away too quickly or easily -- only give it away when God tells you it is the right person to give it to, for it is His anyway. She also went out with a friend on Saturday night and has pictures of her night out on there. I have fallen for her and not sure how to handle this...is she wanting me to end it or is she scared or....????
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): I hope it works out for the best.
If it's meant to be... it will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we had a talk last night and she said that she didn't know if we were compatible and that was bothering her some and that was because we had differences and she didn't want to rush into things and she wasn't being distant because of that. So, I said then if you feel that way, then maybe we need to take a break and stop seeing each other and she said I don't know, I'm saying I'm just not sure is all. She said you are the first person I have dated since I have been saved and this is new to me and in the past I have jumped into things too quick and been sexually involved and now that I have my faith and my new foundations, this is like we have become friends. She said but maybe that is how it is supposed to be...we are to become friends first and as things evolve we get stronger with each other. So, I said I know how I feel and I think you need time to figure you out. I said maybe we should stop contact of any form with each other and see how you feel after a few days. Again she said I don't know. My response was I believe in being upfront and not playing games...so we left at we will not contact each other for a while...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It could honestly be a few things.
1: She could of been jealous with you around her friends
2: Us girls act very strange when we're feeling emotional, or suspicious
Ask her flat out what's bothering her, and if there is anything you can do to help. That's the best advice I can give.
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