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writes:hi im 14 yearz old and i ive been talkin to a guy i known for 6 months the bad thing iz that he iz onli 18 years old and im scared that its not rite but i lkehim so i dont care but he asked me if i would have sex with him and i said i maybe wud but i dont kno if i shud im still a virgin but im scared i mite end up pregnant or sumtn
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Your first time should be special, with someone who you're in love with or at least in a relationship with. You're not even going out with each other and he's asking for sex? This suggests that he'll do what a lot of lads who are his age do - get in, get on, get out. Basically, he'll get what he wants and leave you, move on to another girl. You'll just end up feeling used and hurt. Worst still it would've been your first time! Have some self respect and just tell him "No". If he wants someone to use, then tell him to find another girl!!
Good luck :)
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
 You aren't obviously ready for sex, so don't do it. Try to wait for someone who cares for you and who makes you feel secure and happy, not someone who just thinks he likes you or who will like you if you put out. Those guys will likely dump you and won't take responsibility if anything bad happens. I assure you that if you wait for that someone, you will not regret it.
Also, don't let anyone pressure you into having sex. Even if you're in a secure, loving relationship but you aren't sure you should start havin sex, then wait until you are sure. If he loves you, he will understand you and he will wait.
Oh, an extra thing about him wanting sex from you, well, it's illegal. If some adult finds out about it, he will be put in jail and be charged as a sexual predator. And you will get in trouble with your parents. Don't forget about STD's that you might catch from this or any other guy. So for this same reason, you should try to get to know a guy before sleeping with him. I mean, do you know to how many people he has slept with? Or any personal question about him?
In the end, it's your decision, but like everyone in here said, just WAIT till you're older and when you're in a loving relationship.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Please wait.
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reader, junebug +, writes (1 August 2008):
honey dont do it! If he loves u he will wait. U have saved urself for a while so why not just wait to make sure its love or untill u marry give that special part of u to someone u know u love! Please be carefull!best of luck hon~ xoxoxo~
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Wait. You will years and years of love if you wait a few years, and you may have years and years of pain, disappointment, sadness and regret if you become sexually active now.
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reader, troysyaussie  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 of course you shouldnt. first of all he is an adult and you are still young. shame on him for even asking you for sex. if you feel that its not right then it isnt. the first time is the time you want to be special with someone that loves and cherishes you forever even if the relationship doesnt last. i made the mistake of having sex for the first time when i was 13 with an older man. i was with him for 4 months. he asked if we could have sex. i lost my virginity to him and 2 weeks later i caught him in bed with another family member of mine. dont give it to the one that asks you for it. give it to the one that doesnt. :) and wait a while first please.
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