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*heergirl95
writes:Okay, so i have a boyfriend who i have been with for 2 weeks, but weve liked each other for a while. i really like him and want to be with him and all my friends and my family likes him. he helped me through my last relationship with my cheating boyfriend and im so grateful to have him. but, i also love my ex (not the one that cheated on me) and have for a while. we broke it off after dating for a little under a year because i didnt want a long distance relationship(5 hours away). he was always really sweet and nice to me and i still miss him terribly and he still misses me too. we talk every now and then and have both tried to be in different relationships but they always fail because we still have feelings for each other. so, im wondering if maybe i could try for a long distance relationship or if i should try to look over my feelings for this guy and try harder for my relationship with my boyfriend. anything would help me..thanks!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Like fishdish pointed out if you're struggling with a 2 week relationship you will most definitely struggle with a LDR. You couldn't handle the LDR in the beginning because of the distance, what makes you think you can cut it this time? At your age range, you need a boyfriend you can see, touch, see in your hallways at school, go to the movies on Friday nights, attend school games together, kiss, hug, and cuddle with. A LDR guy, you can't do that with and unless you got your license and your parents are willing to give you gas money..or shell out for a plane ticket then you're not going to see him that often but maybe holidays and whenever either of you can make the trip to see each other. So what's left is you have a phone relationship or chatting online after school. You're going to tire of that real fast..especially when you see your friends hanging out with their boyfriends. I don't recommend engaging in a LDR till you're much older, and even then it's not for everyone.
I think you need to give it a little more time with your current boyfriend, it's just been 2 weeks, give the boy a chance...He's proven to be trustworthy and if things don't work out you can still be friends.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (27 October 2010):
 If you're already struggling with a two week relationship, you should just get out of it now. but, to be honest, I'm not a fan of the other relationship choice either, but that's becaue long distance is extremely emotionally trying, difficult to connect to a person you only get to see every once in a while. I did it for four years and I hated it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): this is just what id do, but i think you should (for now) stay with your boyfriend and maybe start talking to your ex again and see exactly where you both stand on a relationship with each other. also you could try and have a long distance relationship if you really loved him. but be careful long distance relationships dont always work out. i mean youd hardly ever see him or get to hang out with him...but if its true love i say go for it. at least thats what id do:) hope that helped....
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