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*ilence_key
writes:My boyfriend dumped me not too long ago. (2 months)Im still hurt but moved in with dignity and havent looked back. However he is contacting everyone we know mutually and making childish stories up such as Im harassing him. It isnt just the stories but numerous people are demanding for me to stop harassing him. Tsk. I havent spoken to him in a long time although at one point I was extremely angry at these stories and decided to ring him to give him an earful but he deliberately missed my call. (which he obviously broadcasted)Thing is, aside all of this, he is asking about me, If I have a bf? How do I look now? What am I doing with myself?Im confused, he left me so why is he behaving like this?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Block him from FB.
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reader, silence_key +, writes (20 April 2011):
silence_key is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha, In light to this old issue.After a while he did stop as he recieved no reaction.Funnily enough today he has decided to message me on fb, you would assume someone would be sensible in their approach but no? He has not changed abit, still onto his silly games and it seems he regularly checks on my fb to look at my pictures.Sad person.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 That is terrible. All you can really do is try your best not to let it affect you and hold your head up. He'll give up faster if he see that it's not really affecting you.
Wow this guy must have a low self esteem issue to constantly try this. You could always just let your boss know too that this guy is an ex and he is harassing you at work. Then say that you don't want this to affect your work at all and you would like some help removing him from the store. I think your boss would have some sympathy to the situation and not want some guy just hanging out in the store.
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reader, MsVick +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I am going thru this myself and it all boils down to his immaturity. You deserve better so just move on and do what all you can to ignore him eventually he will get bored with the game.
Good luck
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reader, silence_key +, writes (27 October 2010):
silence_key is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh Realist, it gets worse.
I work in retail part time and luckily I was off yesterday but he turned up and hovered around my department.
This for me is too much.
Why?!!!
I know he wont talk to me but he wants to see how I'd react and I know I will get upset.
Im so upset about this, how can someone be so heartless. It feels awkward to go to work, I keep thinking he might be watching from in the store.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (27 October 2010):
Good for you being the bigger person over this. Yeah the friends will come to hate his whining about the situation and know that he is just telling lies.
Hope he doesn't carry on too much longer.
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reader, silence_key +, writes (27 October 2010):
silence_key is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTennisstar - He is just SO Sad. I feel too immature to back chat and talk foul about him. It was our private matter, why play childish games? Argh!
The Realist - wow it makes sense now. Hes playing games. So stupid.
Yeah Im not into showing off or taking revenge. Im just minding my own business and carrying on irrespective of how hes trying to put me down.
Good thing is, these mutual friends are coming to the realisation that its him with the 'problems' as he constantly rings them to talk about me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 October 2010):
What a psycho! I would change my number if I were you and ignore the comments he makes about you to mutual friends..you can't make him stop but it makes him look rather sad carrying on about you and very petty for badmouthing you.
I don't know what it is about break ups but there's often that curiosity of what the other is doing..like checking their Facebook and posts on their wall, asking about them through friends, or friends often volunteer the information and some are gutsy enough to come right out and ask. It doesn't mean anything, he just wants to know if you're still bitter (like him) and grieving over the break-up.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (27 October 2010):
It sounds like he is trying all that he can do to get as many people as possible to pity him for the break up that he did. It's such an old and pathetic trick but he wants people to feel sorry for him and hate you because usually what happens is the mutual friends will hate whoever caused the break up. he is trying to make it seem like you were the cause of all the problems. He also hopes to hear about how bad you are doing so he can feel good about himself.
My advice to him is don't lie to him, don't even bother talking to him anymore, he's not worth your time. Try your best to move on which may mean losing a few of those friends who beleive him over you but then they were never really your friends to begin with. Meet some new people and a new guy, don't go looking for revenge and to prove how great your life is just live it so that you are happy. I had a ex gf do something like this to me and I found that if I went on living my life they realized that no one cared and they eventually just faded off the map.
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