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*riselda
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a little less than a year. we're gonna be apart for the next six months because i have to go abroad. when he said that he doesn't love me (he used to say that he does), but only likes me a lot and he has doubts if the relationship can continue while we're apart, i told him it's better that we end it now. for me, i love him and i'm willing to make the relationship work despite the distance. however, when i break up with him, i will shut him off my life. that's just how i deal with a break-up. he started crying a lot saying that he really doesn't know what he wants, he's very stressed (he's making big decisions career-wise), he loves me (maybe a strong friendly love), he sees me as his "home," that if i do break up with him we should still be friends, etc. He then said that we should see how it goes since we'll see each other a few times during those 6 months. What should i make out from all this? should i give up the relationship or fight for it? i truly love him. i'm very hurt and i've been crying so much.
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reader, criselda +, writes (17 September 2007):
criselda is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your advice. i really appreciate it. i'm hoping things will turn out for the best.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 It's up to you if you remain friends. There is really no reason why if the relationship isn't their that the friendship has to end. That's not only rejecting the relationship, but devaluing the person you ended it with too.You're going away for a while, he doesn't know what he wants, but it seems as if he has quite a bit on his plate and many decisions to make. That can create stress among other things. I would take this time away as a growth experience. It will give him a chance to figure out what he wants, and sort out some of his other decisions, then see where you both stand when you get back. If you or he has drifted away, end it then, or it may make you stronger.
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