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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Confused and need of some advice!My girlfriend is returning to England as a foreign student(we met 7 months ago whilst she was studying English)We love each other very much and she has gone to much effort to arrange a visa to return to study and also see me!She has been home for 6 weeks for summer and we have talked most days on phone or see each other on MSN. When she returned home 7 weeks ago she mentioned she had one male friend in particular who she went to uni with ,he was sending her text messages to her asking for them to meet up, she admitted to me that he had a crush on her. I was a bit jealous but she reassured me I had nothing to worry about and i think they have had some sort of contact during her stay, this hasn't bothered me too much as my girlfriend insists he is just a friend!Last night we were on video call on MSN and she said to me do you mind a waiting a minute someone has sent me a message to which I said "of course , no problem!I waited for about 10 minutes and was beginning to get a little annoyed because we were in the middle of a conversation but thought doesnt matter too much. Anyway when she returned to me I asked who it was and she was talking to the man who had been giving her so much attention before! I was definately jealous ! She said he had asked her if they could meet! to which she answered yes, but with her other female friends.He said he wanted to meet her alone , I don't know how she answered this question. I hung up the call and 10 minutes later I had called down we talked. I said to her try and understand how it would have made her feel if the situation was the other way round to which she answered She would not be with me if this was the case! I respect her for her honesty, letting me know he is calling her but she told him she was talking to her boyfriend(apparently) but they continued to chat whilst I was waiting. Is it unfair of me to have been mad with both of them? How can I best approach the subject again? without openning a can of worms? We were fine again in 15/20 minutes and laughing about it but inside I am still jealous should I be? I would like to ask her if they meet but this might send us back to square one!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 It is unfair to you if she's wanting to keep this relationship going. What she needs to look at is, he wanted to meet her alone. That tells me his intentions are not that of just a friend. Hers may be, but his are not. So if she is wanting to keep the relationship going, it's not a good idea for her to remain in contact with someone who has intentions that will interfere with the relationship you have with her.
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