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writes:My boyfriend gave me a $700 bracelet that has his name engraved in it. The only problem is that this bracelet was given to him by his ex. He says that he loves me and he wanted to let me know how serious he was about me. I thought it was sweet but it kind of felt awkward. Should I be upset? What does this mean? Should I give the bracelet back to him or should I keep it?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (27 January 2009):
 Well, as the sole guy replying to this, I'll say that his intentions might have been in right place, but getting jewelry as a hand-me-down (other than family heirlooms) is rather tasteless. Granted, he may not be aware of that he was acting in bad form. Seems like he could have pawned it and purchased something special for you...
OK, so he's not the sharpest tool in the shed, but it also seems like his heart was in the right place.
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (27 January 2009):
 If you feel uncomfortable as any woman would wearing something their ex gave them I would say thank you you really love the thought he put into it but would he mind if you and him sold it and used the money to buy something else! I hope this helps good luck!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 January 2009):
 Hi sweet,
Myself, I would feel awkward about that. I don't think you'd be in the wrong or offend him if you gave it back and said, "I'm really flattered and love the gesture, but I'm just not comfortable with having the bracelet your ex gave you."
Make sure he knows that you loved the thought and the meaning behind the gift, but I think that it's a little weird for him to give you a bracelet his ex gave him. That is called re-gifting and there is a whole Seinfeld episode devoted to tackling this controversial issue.
Good luck!
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