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writes:Hi i fancy my teacher, should i give him a valentines day card or would that just weird him out?help....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): im sorry, but i wouldnt send a card
even if you have a crush on a teacher
(which i think just about every girl i know deffinately has had a crush on a teacher)
i think it will be embarrising
even if you signed it anonimously you could get caught or someone may tell.
this same situation happened to a close friend of mine he is a teacher, and is a very young, good looking, jokey guy, who when usually presented with a valentines day card would laugh about it and find it lovely, but for the sake of his job he had to tell someone senior about it.
if he had kept the card quiet and the girl had persuded him further he could have lost his job, and the girl sent to another school, so my best advise would deffinatly be DONT, for yours and his sake send him a card, because something innocent like that can grow and grow out of control!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didnt do it in the end, he doesnt teach me i just admired him from a distance.... thank you for the advise!!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): ohkaay im the girl who gave my teacher a v day card on thursday, and he hasnt reported me, not that i know of anyway, but if he had i would know, wouldnt i? and it has been a number of days so he is not likely to is he?xo
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (18 February 2008):
 =O did u give him the card??
mail me
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (16 February 2008):
 well its up 2 you really init, but i wouldnt even go that path, he might think that your trying something with him. maybe if you just write hapy valentines day then thats fine but if you buy one with lots of love wrting that will freak him out totally, or you can just make it anonymous. gd luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Even if your class has a laid back working relationship with him you should still not send him V cards - its too personal. Only time will tell whether he is going to report it. If he doesn't know who it is from then he may still have to tell someone that he got a card and someone may speak to the whole class about it, or alternatively on this occasion it may just get left. If something is going to be said, it would happen today or early next week at the latest - teachers in my experience (I have two teenage daughters at school) are quite on picking up and sorting things out quickly. But it is definitely not appropriate to send cards to teachers. Even if you all have a laid back rapport with him, this does not extend to personal matters but it is just within the context of the classroom. One of y daughters has a very funny, interesting etc teacher who makes the whole class laugh and cracks jokes etc however he is happily married and would not even entertain the idea of flirting with a pupil. He once tried to do a favour for a very bright pupil in terms of asking if she could be in his class because he as a teacher genuinely brought out the best results in her (simply because of his teaching style) and he was treated very suspiciously by the head of year for suggesting it! The whole teacher-pupil thing can get very iffy indeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): pleeease tell me if i did the wrong thing my teacher is just acting normal to me and i dont think he has told anyone but i shouldnt have given it to him?????
XO
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (14 February 2008):
I was gonna do the same thing! lol I didnt have the guts however, but... inside i was a bit unsure of it anyways as i didnt want him to go all awkward with me or to report me! so i never gave him one... I regret it however but in the longrun it was better off tbh
I mean tink of the humilation if had got suspened?? i mean embarassin if all the teacher and student found out why, wouldnt you agree?? i mean i like this guy but ill keep secret ofr a little bit longer lol ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): uh oh.. today i gave my teacher a valentines card. did i do the wrong thing??? he is a very laid back teacher and it was just a friendly card saying 'happy valentines day mr *****!' in cut out letters. this teacher knows i fancy him, but the card was from my two friends and i. i didnt even give it to him. and after he got the card he was just his normal happy self. but now i think i am regreting this, can someone tell me if what i did was wrong??XO
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reader, hello1 +, writes (14 February 2008):
 NO! My freind gave a teacher a card saying how much she fancied him. Anyway, he gave it to the head and she got suspended! because he may feel if he dosen't tell someone you might blackmail him, it does happen. I wouldn't
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Lots of young girls get these urges to want sex with there teachers. I had load of designs on my female teachers. These are fantasies and should be treated as such. If it could cause a problem for anyone then stick to fantasising. 9 times out of 10 The fantasy is better than the real thing anyway. They never go the way you expect. Saying that, Some teachers would love to do there students so watch for the eyes. They will tell you. and forget the card, Just go for it.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Hi,
as an ex teacher I would be very worried If a student gave me a Valentines card. And that is not what you would want is it, I mean you are doing it because you like him not because you want him to feel uncomfortable.
Chances are, especially at your age, you would be moved to another class and would have a very awkard relatioship with this teacher.
So why do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): I agree with the other replies, including the one from a student who got in trouble. This sort of thing can be so humiliating and I'm sure male teachers are a lot more switched on and clued up than we think re which students have crushes on them etc and if one of them got a card, in order to protect themselves they may well have to report any such things under school policies and regulations etc and then it could get tracked back to you. It is a recipe for disaster and could all go horribly wrong. It might seem like harmless fun but it's not. Have Valentine's fun with your friends and guys your own age who are not teachers and put the idea of sending him a card completely out of your mind. You'll probably look back in a couple of years time and not be able to believe you even fancied him and then you will be SO glad you did not send him a card.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Definitely not! Find a cute guy your own age who is NOT a teacher and send him a card for fun! Teachers and pupils are not supposed to get involved and teachers can get into serious trouble, including losing their job, if they are even so much as suspected as having been flirting with students etc .. His job is to teach and as such his relationship with his students must remain strictly professional. He probably does have a wife or partner at home, as one of the other posters pointed out. Try to focus on what he is teaching rather than anything else or if may affect your work, which is after all, important for your future and your future does not involve him. Ok so he may be cute but just leave it at that. Please don't send him a card. Take care and good luck with your studies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Agreed with Basschick. Elementary school aged kids give 'cute' little valentine cards to their teachers and all their friends, but it's not done with an agenda..it's innocent. At your age, to be giving a teacher a valentine's card will likely end up embarrassing him and will really weird him out. Don't do it. He's your teacher, and he's a professional. And look at getting over this 'crush'...students cannot date Teachers. Plain and simple They could lose their career over stuff like this.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I thought about doing the same, but something I did a while back has stopped me! Okay... i'm not making any sense am I lol! Basically I've fancied the socks off my teacher for about a year now, I like to think of it more than a crush though! Anyway cut a long story short, I gave him a note telling him how I felt! He reported me and I had to attend an embarrassing meeting with my parents to discuss it. Now all of the teachers know about my feelings for him, so if he got a V-card signed anomynous i'd most likely be the first suspect and I'd get into tons more trouble!I wouldn't recommend you give him a V-card, not because it'd freak him out (I'm sure he'd be flattered) but if you're found out to have sent him it by someone, then you'd need to prepare for the consequences!xx
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reader, Basschick +, writes (13 February 2008):
 No I wouldn't go there. He probably already has a girlfriend (or wife) and being scammed by a student would just be too weird. Don't cause problems for him. Teachers are best left alone to teach and nothing more. Otherwise you could jeopardize his job, and his personal relationsips. Try looking for a single male student that interests you. Good luck.
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reader, Variety +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I wouldn't do it if I were you. Yes you fancy him but you must realise that this is going nowhere. The fact you know it might disturb him suggests you probably do.However, if you do give it to him it might suggest to him that you want more than a student-teacher relationship. He might end up talking to you about it and telling you it will never happen. This will not only upset you at the fact he doesn't reciprocate your feelings but it will also be mortifyingly embarrassing.Imagine if he didn't feel comfortable about talking to you and he had to get other people involved in order to do so. Imagine if he told your parents.If I were you I would admire him from a distance (enjoy the view in lessons!) but not take it any further.Hope this helps. Message me if you want to chat. x
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