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writes: Almost two years ago I broke up with my fiance because of nonsense. Since then we haven't really spoken to each other and about a week ago he came to me and we got to talking. Now the feelings that I once had are returning and to make matters worse I am in a relationship with someone else that I feel very dearly about. I am confused because I always wondered what would have happened if we had stayed together. Also one part of me wants him back and the other wants to stay with the man that I am with now. I need help becuse I can't bear to hurt either of them. What should I do?
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reader, pops +, writes (7 September 2005):
You haven't told us why you broke off the engagement. What has changed in the two years? How have both of you changed? Are you both ready for a serious commitment, or are you just comfortable with each other because you know each other so well? Sounds like putting on an old pair of shoes, rather than making a new relationship, doesn't it? The two of you will need to do a lot of talking to learn the answers and make a real decision about whether there can be an " us ". You obviously chose the man you are with now, knowing what you left when the engagement ended. I suspect that you are not doing either of you a favor by trying to rekindle the old romance. Also, it tells you that the current relationship, as good as it seems, has problems in it, and if you are going to stay with your current bf, you had better work on that relationship, before it ends.
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reader, missdee +, writes (7 September 2005):
Search your heart and think about it carefully before you make any moves. You could destroy something that could be great for just to find out what could have been. Things usually happen for a reason, even nonsense. How much do you have invested in each relationship? How long was you with your ex before you two broke up? If you broke up so easily will it really last? Consider all before you make a decision, someone will end up hurt.
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