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*aylordrew
writes:Hi i was just needing some advice. I have only been seeing this guy a few months , we meet on a dating site and he is a realy nice guy and exceptionaly good looking. he made our relationship official as we were spending every day together over summer. then he had to move back to a different city which is a 45 min flight away. he has a really good job there. we would txt every day and had plans for him to move back here. however some thing awful happend to me, my little sis who was 19 suddenly died in a freak accident. he was there for me through the whole thing. then when we were spending weekends together i noticed he was a little distant and his parents made him feel guilty last weekend as we didnt go see them when he was down.he said he didnt feel a spark with me and asked his mum for advice on the phone. he said he wasnt 100% and had doubts . He also said he wants to be with some one who he wants to marry but because he had small doubts he wasnt sure. he said i was an amazing person and he doesnt want to lose contact with me just needs time and he doesnt want to see any one else. he feels bad and when he txts he says he misses me but calls me by my first name.what should i do? i love him but dont want to screw up my chances? should i give him space not txt him. i dont want to see any one else. He said he should give the new city hes in a chance (his parents are pushing him with that dcision) but i know for a fact hes not happy down there. what shoulod i do????
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reader, taylordrew +, writes (12 March 2012):
taylordrew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe txts me every day saying goodmorning have a lovely day and are you ok?
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reader, taylordrew +, writes (12 March 2012):
taylordrew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks jmtmj its just hard as he was with me when i found out about my sisters death he is a nice guy and he txts me first heaps, therefore i feel rude not to reply or to cut our friendship as hes been there. but at the same time i want to do no contact...not sure what to do on that?
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reader, taylordrew +, writes (11 March 2012):
taylordrew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks jmtmj its just hard as he was with me when i found out about my sisters death he is a nice guy and he txts me first heaps, therefore i feel rude not to reply or to cut our friendship as hes been there. but at the same time i want to do no contact...not sure what to do on that?
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (11 March 2012):
 Treat it like a break up... give him space, don't contact him. You don't want to be holding out hope and putting your life on hold for something that may not eventuate. It sucks and its not the most optimistic option out there- but in my experience- its better than wasting time holding out hope and many sleepless nights.
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