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writes: Hello.Me and my girlfriend were in an amazing relationship, we were the couple that everyone thought that would always be together, we were strong as a rock. But she found out that she was moving,we made a plan that we wanted to try and make it work.we were both up for it. this news put lots of stress on her, with other things such as exams, so we were under alot of pressure over the past month, admittedly our relationship was also under pressure to, as we fell out more,but this didnt seem to serious as we would normally talk about our problems and want to sort them out. But recently she started to just ingorne me and wouldnt even talk back if i had a problem or if i did something wrong, it was as if she didnt care. I was her support tho, she would always come crying to me for help as she was stressed, we loved eachother so much, i still do.But we had an argement and she went to walk off,i tried 2 stop her which made things worse,i eventually let her go. And then a few hours later she wanted to end the relationship.Just three weeks before she is moving.She says she doesnt love me anymore.but can you really stop loving someone just like that, could it be that she is trying to make it easy for when she moves. As we meet up and i could see something was there in her eyes, i suggested having a more relaxed realtionship and asked her if she can try and want to love me again, she says she does. But im not to sure.What is my best option. Im not giving up intil im forced to, but should i just give her space and hope that she reaslises she has dont wrong, as hopefully she will miss me.Or tell her that i love her, and keep on about how i dont want to loss her.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): im going through a really really hard time right now, yes you should give her space, try as hard as you can, i failed to do this properly and ultimately it ended the relationship. its a long distance relationship i was in and she told me to give her some space. i didnt realise how important this was until after the break up when i read up about it. It doesnt help that theres guys there that like her and when i asked would they make her happy, she said "yes because they would respect my space". so now i cant stop blaming myself thinking theres no chance now. after being giving the chance to "change" i decided to call her less but still call her. bad move, now she said dont try n get her back. although around 3 weeks before the breakup we were talking about the nicest things. its all messed up now and dont know what to do. the point is, give her space, dont contact her until she does or you will end up where i am. all future plans together destroyed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): to be honist i have being through it just before xsmas and split up 4 ten wks, and i storked an text and begged, didnt do any good, we just split again over a silly thing. we adore each other but argue over stupid things.this time am just going to leave him to sort his head out, and give him space, so you do the same lets see how we go
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): I'm going through something similiar now & its crucifying me, its one of the hardest things to comprehend & cope with. Someone told me "if you really love the girl show her you love her enough to give her the space she needs", it is good advice, try to step back & stay strong. Just wish I could take the advice myself & didn't feel like every single day I can't contact her, say the right words, put things right is purgatory
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reader, tonsta +, writes (11 July 2006):
hi i recently split with g/f and i kept txting her and ringing etc.. and all i got was your pestering me and such i stopped last fri went out was talking to another girl and somehow she found out and was txting me sat to get back together! give her space becasue as long as you are in contact she will still feel as if your in her life but when you stop she will have the time to think. good luck
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 Give her space. To answer your question you can't just up and stop loving someone just like that. Go on about your life like you normally would and let her sort out her own feelings without any involvement from you. Remember, your feelings are in this as well as hers. Though you love her you must still give yourself the love and attention that you need. She will sort it out and will call you. Just back-off for awhile and things will work out. Be strong. Good Luck.
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reader, qwert +, writes (10 July 2006):
qwert is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to say we were together for two years,i know for a facted she loved me. we were madly in love,thats why i find it hard to believe her reasoning, we have meet up twice since the break up and ive just tried makin her laugh and flirtin with her finding excuses to kiss, which worked we kisesd a few times. And thats why i think she still loves me, and i know we can make it work if only she would realise. Thanks again
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