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writes:Hi everyone, I feel like I really need advice. I have been married for 3 years and my husband cheated on me a few months ago with a girl I can't stand. He says that they just made out and then he ended it, but he was really drunk so I'm thinking that it was more that he couldn't follow through. I have to say that I feel as if my whole world has crashed down around me and that I will never smile again. He says it was a mistake and that he loves me and wants to work it out. I feel like such a fat ugly piece of shit and wonder how I'm supposed to carry on being married to him or how he will be faithful to me when I'm couldn't hold his attention for the short time we have been married. I don't know if I should put myself out there and try again or walk away. Does anyone have any similar experiences or any advice?
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reader, roses1891 +, writes (23 May 2010):
roses1891 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks rainbow maker. I'm still a mess and still trying to sort out what to do. I hope that it become clearer to me in time.
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reader, rainbowmaker  +, writes (10 May 2010):
 the thing is, you do still love him so maybe its worth giving him a second chance? Oh, honestly, your question has really been playing on my mind!I know that if it was me then he wouldnt see me for dust. I just dont think he has any respect for you, and i just dont want you to lose your self respect!Unfortunately your the only one that can make the decision! I know, how annoying! Wouldn't it be nice if someone could just wave a wand and the correct answer would become clear? Take some tme out. Is there someone you could maybe stay with for a while? A friend, family member? Clear your head and try to look to the future and where you see your life going. Is he your future? Is he worth all the pain?I wish i could help you more! I really wish you all the best my love! be happy! Good luck! x
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reader, roses1891 +, writes (10 May 2010):
roses1891 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much ranibowmaker for your response and kind words its greatly appreciated. I'm still so in love with him which I hate but there are no kids which is a good thing. I wish it was easy to decide what to do.
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reader, rainbowmaker +, writes (10 May 2010):
I'm sorry your husband is a pig and has made you feel the way you do! I guess the question is, do you still love him? i think that if he really loved you then he never would have cheated in the first place.
A part of me wants to say, give your marriage another chance but an even bigger part of me is saying, do you know what, he has been a pratt and made you feel like shit, there is no mention of you having any children, so what is there to keep you there?
I really dont agree with cheating at all and i know that the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" isn't always true but if you let him get away with it, whats to stop him doing it again?
Follow your instincts, thats what we are best at doing, and follow your heart my love. Do what you feel is best for you! make yourself happy, no one else can do it for you. we only get one life, live it right and have no regrets!
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