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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and He's a little Controlling. He asked me to stop talking to a few of my fella friends and I said no and he got annoyed! Anyway...we've started arguing over his ex. You see when they were going out she was really cruel to him. He would have to beg her for some affection and SEX! Then she would put him down. The other day he told me he met her in his town and they chatted. I got jealous because I couldn't understand why he wanted to talk to her she was horrible to him! He didnt even tell her he was seeing me! So I went out with the girls that nighht for a drive and my friend brother ( who is my ex ) came out that nigt too. We talked a little and he asked if I was with someone and I said Yes and I was happy. When I came home I told my Boyfriend and he said it was "ok" like I dont understand Why its ok to talk to my ex who really hurt me but i can't talk to some of my fella friends what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2013): Because he's the boss and you do what he says. It's that simple really. All the rest if just useless information, what he says goes and you gladly go along with it for some mad reason. If you don't like it, do something about it or just stay controlled and do nothing but moan about how unfair it is. Your choice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 March 2013):
 I can see a woman who is in a live in relationship complain about a controlling man but IF you are LDR how can he be controlling without your consent?
He ASKED you to stop talking to your male friends. YOU can say NO. He can get annoyed all he wants. He can even choose to end it with you if you refuse to comply with his wishes. I do not see that as controlling. He asked. You said NO.
He met his ex in town (was it a planned date or did they just run into each other?) and they chatted. I see no problem with this but you got Jealous.
How often are you and your bf seeing each other? How long have you been LDR? What’s the plan to end the distance.
If you get jealous of him talking to his ex, you are insecure in the relationship as jealousy in an emotion not based on love but on insecurity.
Relationships that are close distance are hard enough... LDRs require special skills... honesty, communication, trust....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2013): first of all, he shouldn't dictate who you talk to, if he has insecurities, you two should discuss those insteadmost likely he ran into his ex, chatted, realized that it sorta contradicted with him asking you not to talk to ur guy friends so much. so when you talked to your ex, it sorta made things even (which is a bad way to think about things in a relationship,but many people tend to do it) therefore this once it was "ok" , basically.. now you can't say anything about him talking to his ex.be wary, he may use this as justification to be right in talking to his ex more, and if he's willing to "allow" you the same freedom, it may be because he genuinely wants to talk to her, aka has some sort feelings for her... tho you should be wary already since he asked you not to talk to your friends
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