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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend wants me to get breast implants, and I don't know how I feel about it. I am naturally very flat chested, an A cup. I've never really liked having small breasts but as I've gotten older I've learned to accept it. My boyfriend wants me to get implants so I balance out better as I have wide hips. He thinks it will make me look and feel better. Should I consider this?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (21 August 2015):
 Haha...That's perfect Aunt CindyCares! I love what she said. Suggest that he get a penis enlargement. Only then will you have a breast enlargement and tell him that that way you get a couples discount :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (21 August 2015):
 Tell him that you'll get breast implants IF he goes for penis enhancement surgery. If you book your surgeries together, they may even give you a discount :).
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 August 2015):
 I have had a mastopexy which is a breast lift. I came home with drains in both breasts that drained blood and fluid and had to be cleaned every few hours....
I've been there done that. I had it for reconstructive purposes.
If you are NOT sure,then just say NO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2015): No you shouldn't do it for him!!! I have breast implants because I decided that that is what I want. My boyfriend remained impartial throughout the process. Ie: do whatever makes u happy baby. Or 'I love your small boobies too so whatever you choose'.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (21 August 2015):
 i have trouble with that. if he loves you he accepts you for who you are, not what he sees in his mind that he wants you to be. you are who you are , should that not be enough for him to love,and accept !
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): What?!?! Seriously!!! You think he's a decent boyfriend asking you to change your body like that?!
That's serious surgery. Whilst lots of people undergo cosmetic surgery daily, the reality is problems happen. Whether it's issues with the anaesthetic or blunders by the surgeon you could potentially be scarred for life, injured by a mistake or even worse....
DO NOT GET SURGERY BECAUSE SOME STUPID, PRICK OF A BOYFRIEND TELLS YOU YOUR NOT PERFECT.
You deserve someone better than that. Someone who actually loves you for who you already are and doesn't try and mould you into their version of perfection.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 August 2015):
 In my honest opinion, no.
NEVER go under the knife and have plastic/cosmetic surgery unless YOU feel strongly about doing it.
Would he go and have implant in his penis? Or his pecks? If you wanted them bigger?
How is it HIS business how your body is shaped?
All he is doing is undermining the body and the acceptance of that body that you have.
EVERY time a person goes under anesthesia there is a risk of NOT waking up.
The number of deaths within a year after a general anesthesia is frighteningly high: one in 20.
And he wants to RISK your life so you can have bigger boobs for him to look at?
http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/04/under-the-knife-study-shows-rising-death-rates-from-general-anesthesia/
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reader, IanHenryCooper  +, writes (20 August 2015):
 IF you decide on breast augmentation, do it for YOU and nobody else - it's your body. Please remember that all operations carry risk.
Personally, I like ALL breasts and the only thing that matters to me is that my partner gets pleasure from whatever I do to them.
I dare say others on here will challenge me on this, but implanted breasts do not feel the same - you can always tell - and your boyfriend may end up regretting persuading you (against your better judgement) to undergo augmentation.....
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reader, Euphoria30  +, writes (20 August 2015):
Dear OP,With all my love, are you going to pay lots of money, to let a surgeon cut you open, even though you are in good health and accept your body as it is - to please your boyfriend? I have no words for the anger that I feel for the "man" or better manchild by your side, that is trying to manipulate you here, to feel bad, so he doesn't have to accept that you are as you are. A woman with an individual body that's not out of a photoshopped magazine ad. No, you should NOT consider this!Women should NOT consider going to a clinic and hurting their bodies because a man wants them to. There are health risks involved, recovery time where you will hurt. You should consider changing your boyfriend, who doesn't respect you and is willing to risk your health and well-being for the sake of his sex fantasies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): Not if someday when you want kids you want to breastfeed.There are proven benfits of breastfeeding.REMEMBER There is always a risk of death when being put under..why do you think you have to sign that waiver every time at the hospital when you are put under?Also who is gonna pay for it?What if there are complations and you need them removed who will pay for that.No insurance will cover this as it is cosmetic they will not cover the removal also.Any way if you do something like this it should be because you want to not because your boyfriend wants you to have large boobs.Boys may come and go but your boobs will be your boobs forever.ANOTHER THING PLEASE GOOGLE BOTCHED BOOB JOBS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): I think your boyfriend should not try to change you he should love you for who you are not what you look like.
I am too pretty much flat chested as well and hated them but like you I grew up and accepted it hey I have alot of other great assets as I'm sure you have also, don't focus on what you don't have focus on the great things you do!
Never change yourself for anyone other than yourself it sounds like more your boyfriends problem than yours. Id tell him no I'm sorry I like my body the way it is if you don't like me for who I am then you know where the door is! He's in a relationship with you so he is attracted to you as you are.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): Never get surfery for someone else!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): *He* thinks it will make *you* feel better? Sounds like he's just trying to convince you to get major surgery, when it wasn't actually your idea.
What happens if you break up? It wasn't you who wanted them.
Honestly, unless you want them *without* him and his opinions, I wouldn't advise it.
He needs to love you as you are, not suggest and encourage surgery.
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