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writes:i just want a little bit of help and advice please.i am still stupidly in love with my recent ex boyfriend, we have been broken up for a few months and during this time we have always kept close contact as 'friends' but still had the relationship aspect, i suppose friends with benefits which is never good.i was confused in what i wanted so never told him fully how i felt about him i was just happy hanging out, i recently found out he had been %seeing someone else for a few weeks, he didnt tell me himself but as soon as i found out he came clean and said it was nothing - a rebound i guess - bearing in mind we had been broken up for months so he has done nothing wrong except for lie to me about it as i had asked him outright on a couple of occasions.anyway after all this happened he told me its made him realise and he wants to get back with me and try again, this is what i have wanted all along but now i am not sure i can get over the fact he has been with someone else. he doesnt speak to me or answer questions about it, which i suppose is for the best for my sanity but it does make me wonder about the situation. it is always him who insitgates the contact with me, i would say we contact 50/50 - its not one sided. i will stress we were together for over a year, we broke up amicably although more his decission but the spark has come back and it isnt out first serious relationship and i have never felt like this before.my head is just screwed up and i dont know what to do, has anyone been in this situation?? i dont know if i feel used, played, lied to, i know hes done nothing wrong seeing someone else but if he wanted to get back wth me why do it :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): If you cant get over this,getting back would be a disaster. I myself would think long and hard before going back.
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reader, galfrend  +, writes (31 August 2010):
guys are complicated beings to us women just as we are to them.l don't think this guy is genuine.he knew that you still had feelings for him but he still went ahead and slept with someone else.by sleeping with someone else he broke your trust.be careful if you decide to give him another chance.he might do it again and you will get hurt again.you have to be carefull.and please gal there is no such thing as friends with benefits.only one person benefits while the other gets hurt and the person who benefits is usually the one who initiated the separation.in your case it was your boyfriend and he had two benefits.
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