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*ndriod_Jade
writes:Me and my boyfriend (whom is my ex now)at the time were perfect in the beginning. the thing is he left his ex to be with me but something was telling me that him and his ex were def more than just friends afterward. id ask him plenty of times and he'd always say they were just friends so i let it go. then he wanted to break up with me out of nowhere and i found out he told her he left me because he still loved her. so i figured im through with him. we've been apart a month now and i asked him if he slept with anybody since me and he said yes so i asked him if it was her and he said yes. it really broke my heart it could have been any other woman but her i was torn apart over it. now i don't know if i can even still be friends with him now, he broke the code sleeping with the girl i hate and whom he said he never hung out with. i dont think i can ever forgive him or see him the same again. what should i do?
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reader, celestial  +, writes (15 June 2010):
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (15 June 2010):
 He left his ex for you. Then he left you to get back with her.
The way you got him is the way you lost him. You're getting a taste of your own medicine. Deal with it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 June 2010):
I think you need to cut him out of your life. He's treated both you and his ex very shabbily. He left her for you, never really cut contact and then left you to go back to her. He'll just continue to use people, and you don't want to be one of them again. I'm afraid there's nothing you can do about him and his dating. But you can cut him out of your life and move on. So do that.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 June 2010):
 You and he have BROKEN UP. You don't have a say in who he sleeps with now. There is no longer any "code" that he has to follow. If he wanted to go sleep with the entire Dallas Cheerleading squad one by one, that's his right.
THIS is why exes shouldn't be friends. All this baggage is stifling and unhealthy. This includes him staying in contact with HIS ex. See what happened? It ruined YOUR relationship with him, yet you still want to be friends with him? Think that won't ruin your relationship with the next guy, think again.
Cut him loose. Do not care who he's with or that he exists at all. I assume that you two had no kids together? He is irrelevant to you. He does not matter to you. He is a lying cheater, and he is bad for you.
You must stop caring that he is with his ex. You have to cut him out of your heart FORCIBLY. Out, gone, dead to you. Why are you even asking him who he's slept with since his breakup?? Geeze. You need to get over him, and violently eject the very thought of him out of your brain, or you will never move forward.
NO FRIENDS with exes!
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