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writes:for the past few months i have had a crush on a boy that i know. we used to be friend and he even said that he liked me as more than a friend but a month ago one of my mates asked him out and he said yes. ever since they started going out, he hasn't spoke to me as much and doesn't give me the same attention as he used to. he used to walk me home and cuddle me when i was cold but now he doesn't. his girlfriend said to one of my other mates that if i try anything with her boyfriend, she'll kill me. she knows i like him but i didn't want to say anything to him because i wouldn't want to hurt her. now i'm really mad at her and i don't want them to date because she has a reputation for cheating. i don't want him to get hurt and i know that i would never do that to him. should i try to get over him or should i stick around so he has someone to talk to if she does hurt him? i really love him
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (14 June 2009):
 It's probably best to not come between them. Whatever happens between them is going to happen anyway, whether they stay together or she cheats on him, or he puts up with it and stays with her.
Feeling love for someone who doesn't feel the same about you is a very hard thing to accept, it can make you feel very sad and can also make you doubt yourself.
She doesn't sound like a very nice girl anyway, from what she has said about you and it seems so unfair that someone so nasty can go out with someone you care about...but life is just like that sometimes.
You can rise above it and act maturely, by stepping back and making friends elsewhere. If you still see him from time to time, ask him occasionally how he is. If he regards you as a good friend, he may open up to you and then you can tell which way things are going. Be a friend, but dont be an interfering friend. Who knows, when he's had enough of her, he might look at you and admire the fact that you handled the situation with courage and dignity.
Good luck sweetie xxx
Aunty Em x
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